Saturday, 29 December 2012

The Finish Line.

We have 2 more days for 2012 to be over. Sorry Mayans and all who said the world was ending. I guess my God doesn't work on man's schedule or calendars. Who even thought they could challenge God when he said "No one knows about that day or hour, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father?"-Matthew 24:36 NIV. Look me in the eye and tell me there is no God all you who believe in science and I will show you my God that created the darn calendars you are working with. So december is here and you have officially given up till 2013. Just living hour by hour and waiting for the "better year" that is 2013. Who told you it will be better? What you do with it will determine whether it will be better or worse than this year.

Ephesians 6:10 “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.”

What are you doing with the last 2 days of this year? Are you sleeping the year away? Beefing with your "haters", or better still making money so you can go on a club crawl and enter 2013 popping bottles? I'm not exactly sure what you want for your life and whether you intend to finish strong, but I will do my little bit and encourage you to sit back and assess your year. A friend of mine actually made me write down what was good, bad and what I hope for 2013. It made me actually re-adjust my thoughts and see what better way I can enter the new year with a new mind, body and spirit. God forbid I enter the new year with the same frustrations, same struggles, same baggage and the same mentality I had this year. I will use these last few hours to go through my life and see those that I need to love from a healthy distance (you know those that are dangerous for your life? The ones you know you shouldn't hang around for an extended period) and the ones that you should get close to (Them that better and bring out the best in you). I am determined to drop all negativity and poor lifestyles in this year and enter the new year strong. My year is NOT over at all. I still have hours to change my reality. Refuse to carry scrappy behaviors into the new year. You know better.

Let's do this together. Come with me and let's plan to be better, think better, love OTHER PEOPLE better. ((While I'm on that topic, let's show God's love to other people these last few days and put it on our to-do-list for 2013. This life is not about us. Indulge others.))

Let's also run to the finish line with God. Don't leave him in your room before you step out of the house where you are all "Jesus'd up" and go outside TOTALLY throwing Jesus under the bus and living like Jezebel. You are royalty. Our walk and lives are way different from our next door neighbor's.

"Let your light so shine before men that they may see your moral excellence and your praiseworthy, noble, and good deeds and recognize and honor and praise and glorify your Father Who is in heaven"- Matthew 5:16

DON'T BE A WASTE. FINISH STRONG!!!  I believe in you. You can do it. Don't give up yet. God hasn't said it's over, so keep running.

When the year is over you will feel great and dance and celebrate for real BECAUSE  you finished strong and started 2013 PUMPED.




REMEMBER: DO NOT CARRY SILLY BEHAVIORS, CRAZY MINDSETS, STUPID CHARACTERS INTO THE NEW YEAR. (IT'S A NEW YEAR FOR A REASON. DROP CARRY OLD INTO THE NEW.)

I LOVE YOU FORREAL! AND I CARE ABOUT WHAT YOU DO WITH THE LIFE GOD GAVE YOU. 


Sunday, 16 December 2012

F.E.A.R (Guard Your Heart)

CNN, Huffington Post, blogs, Twitter, Facebook etc these days are bearers of bad news. We then personalize the stories and ask ourselves "when will it be my turn?" "what if I am next?" and drag this emotional baggage we arranged and packed by ourselves. Unknown to some, every media outlet we expose ourselves to, we are opening up our spirits to whatever sort of energy they carry; positive or negative. FEAR is creeping in. There is this physical sensation in your heart, emotionally there is this heaviness especially after reading or watching some form of "news". Maybe it's not even the media, maybe you have direct issues that pose as threats in your personal life and you live in this constant state of fear, you have to remind yourself WHO you are and WHOSE you are. These days it is rather easy to live in fear because this dark world is getting darker. I won't sit here and type like I don't have my own share of fear because I do. I have an exam on thursday I should be studying for, but after watching the news FEAR crippled me in my ignorance. Thank God for His Word that reminds us and puts us back in perspective. Yes! I included *lifts hand and hangs head in shame.* Good news is we can have self-checks. When you sit down and feel yourself slipping into that place of doubt and worry and unease, check yourself. John 14:1,27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you. not as the world gives, do I give unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. 

Fear and God cannot reside in the same place. Either trust in fear or trust in God. You can't eat your cake and have it. "For God has not given us a spirit of fearfulness, but one of power, love, and sound judgment. 2 Timothy 1:7. 

Silence your emotions. Guard your heart. 

If you know yourself and you know you can't handle an excessive amount of "bad news" don't go out of your way looking for the news. If you hear about something that "shakes" you, flip the channel, close that web page and say a prayer. You have the mind of Christ.  Pour your worries and fear at His feet and LEAVE THEM THERE. 

If we must have any fears, fear GOD...."The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom..." Proverbs 9:10a













You are TOO beautiful to have fear in your heart. We don't have time for that. 

I believe in you. 

Tuesday, 11 December 2012

Karma Takes her Vitamins...

...AND SHE IS ALIVE AND WELL!

Who told me Karma is female? I'm not quite sure but if it makes me happy let it be as is. This is no long rant or what not. This is just a public service announcement to remind you that whatever you give out into the world will absolutely, without a doubt come back to you. Even the Bible confirms this law:

 "Give to others, and you will receive. You will be given much. It will be poured into your hands—more than you can hold. You will be given so much that it will spill into your lap. The way you give to others is the way God will give to you.”-Luke 6:38. (Easy-to-read Version)

Release positive vibes (love, peace, care, giving, encouragement etc)  and you will receive an abundance of positive vibes. In the same vein, release negativity (gossip, hate, lies, cheating, deceit and so on and you will receive an abundance of the likes. Life is actually simple, but people enjoy the thrill of complications. What goes around comes around. Never think you can get away with anything. Think of where you are now, what did you give that has come back? because nothing just happens.

Well ladies, as I mentioned above Karma is alive and well. She is on every vitamin she needs to keep her healthy and active, and she also goes for frequent check-ups, so don't expect her to go away anytime soon. Before you act a fool for a couple minutes, remember sister Karma. She don't play!


Remember you are beautiful! 

(Cheat code to life: give out beauty-full vibes and you will get an overwhelming amount of beauty in your life...Shhhh!...That's our little secret!)



Sunday, 9 December 2012

If you love God you will...


...SPEND TIME WITH HIM.

Yes! you know how you want to spend time with that boyfriend or girlfriend, and how you drive people crazy talking about him/her? The one that makes your heart race with excitement and what not? God wants that too. Why do we feel we should treat Him any differently? Why do we feel it's okay to wake up and say "Thank God for another day" and live the remaining 23h 59mins with no contact with Him whatsoever? Can you even imagine what your relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend will be like IF you treated one another like so? God wants your whole heart. It is absolutely okay to have conversations with Him like He's in the room ((because truth of the matter is He is)). Before you go out, ask "how does this make me look *insert term of endearment or whatever God is to you*--e.g. daddy, Lord, Dearest One-- You will realize the more time you spend being in communication with Him, the more you begin to feel connected to Him in an intimate way. 

"The more I seek You, the more I find You. The more I find You, the more I love You"-Kari Jobe.

When was the last time you cracked open your Bible and you were not seated in church? (compare with  when last you read a text/IM from your boo)-does that strike any cords?- I don't know if I am abnormal but I strongly want to be in tune with God each and every moment, or as often as I can remember. I want to be able to back up my everyday living with biblical verses. I want to know the heart of God. I want to know what makes Him laugh and what frustrates Him. I don't want to have a ceremonious approach to Him. I just want to know Him through our relationship as someone I actually love. When you are frustrated, vent to God and listen to Him. Just sit in absolute silence and tune your mind to thoughts of Him. Listen to worship music and just lose yourself in Him. ((Let me challenge you this week that instead of filling your ears with all the noise Kanye, 2 Chains, Wiz Khalifa and Nicki Minaj, listen to Jesus Culture, Mali Music, Damita & Deitrick Haddon, Kari Jobe and so on and notice a difference in how you feel after). 

There is no more time to waste gorgeous ladies. There is NO MORE TIME. That relationship with Ray is not the only thing that matters. Sleeping with him (outside a marriage setting) breaks God's heart but He still desires to be connected with you. What kind of God is this that wants to be with you even though we hurt Him? It blows my mind but I will absolutely love to keep this kind of friend that counts nothing against me. Have quiet times with God. While I'm on it let's talk about church. Yes!! The "C" word that you do not believe anyone has the right to talk to you about. You so strongly believe that you have a personal relationship with Jesus that you don't need to drag yo behind to church on sundays. WHO LIED TO YOU??? Yes! our relationships should be personal but never "private". Let's look at this simple analogy: we go to school so we can be better individuals and more productive in our workplaces right? right! In the same vein,  church is THE place to feed your spirit (which is your strongest part of your being) and to make you a better person to nurture your personal relationship with God. You cannot "love" God and sleep peacefully on sundays. It doesn't happen. A lot of us find answers to always fire back at anyone who brings up church, BUT deep down inside we know that our relationships are as jacked up as anything. Find a friend you trust and loves God (foreal foreal) and find a lively church full of The Holy Spirit, and where you are also comfortable and stay rooted. Any christian that floats from church to church needs to get their acts together. A rooted christian is established in one church. Quote me!




Our focus needs to change please. We are SO backwards and disgusting in our thoughts it's unreal. Money, clothes, shoes, cars and the rest of them should not be on the forefront of our minds ALL THE TIME! Whatever you spend most of your time/thoughts on tells you exactly where you are with God. As a mature christian or at least somewhere headed to "destination saved", your thoughts should be "what can I do to show that girl God loves her?" "how can I better his life?" "what can I GIVE that homeless person" when the focus shifts from getting to giving, we are doing something right. That also makes God's heart smile. "Then the King will say, ‘I’m telling the solemn truth: Whenever you did one of these things to someone overlooked or ignored, that was me—you did it to me.’"-Matthew 25:40 MSG. Imagine doing something for ALMIGHTY GOD! whew! The thought is.... Anyway, step out of yourself for a bit and love on someone else. Love on God. Find an easily comprehensible Bible like The Message, Life Application, New Living Translation and actually read it. I know our generation is deeply technological--download a bible app and be fly and glamorous while you get to know your Master.

ARE YOU BORED YET???

So in a nutshell:



1). Spend time with God all the time. (have date-nights, put on candles and listen to worship, soak in a tub and just listen to Him speak. Find His voice)

2). Get a Bible that makes reading fun.

3). Re-awaken your church going self (We can't let anything count against us BECAUSE we're going to heaven.

4). Do something for someone "ignored/overlooked", and you do it to GOD.

5). Control your thoughts. Where your mind is shows where God is placed in your heart.

6). Have quiet times with God.

7). Listen to gospel music and lose yourself in the moment.


"7" is the number of completion so I will stop there. The devil is trying SO DOGGONE HARD, and working overtime these days as the end is approaching. We have to fight SO DOGGONE HARD to stay in God's presence.

"The GREATEST tragedy is to be on earth to recount the rapture" GOD FORBID that anyone reading this will be on earth after the rapture to discuss "what happened". We all have to get into Heaven.

Remain beautiful and saved. Give Love. Get Love. Nothing else truly matters.


Tuesday, 20 November 2012

Got exhaustion?



It’s that time of the year and you are looking at your goals for 2012 but they are nowhere near completion. Nothing seems to be happening, and you are just tired of doing the same day to day activities like you are running in a long boring circle. Don’t stop...keep going. There are days when you just want to stand on the roof and scream "GOD WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME?" You are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Some people have gone through so many tests and trials and CANNOT wait for 2012 to be over in the hope that 2013 will be smoother. Embrace your setbacks, they put character in you (hopefully). Who knows? maybe God is trying to “wean” you from toxic, negative & hopeless situations you can’t even wrap your mind around. 

Have you realized when a mother is bathing her infant or toddler and the baby is crying and screaming their brains off, she’s washing away dirt and dead skin cells that have no business being on the baby BUT the baby could care less and just want to be out? It’s the exact way God is trying to wash away negative emotions, fake friendships, bad character and attitudes and we are complaining, rolling our eyes, yapping at the mouth about how everything is going wrong and what not. Stop! Let God work His magic in You and trust that He knows what He’s doing. You can’t know it all, and you definitely can’t understand everything. Yes! It is extremely hard and painful to lose certain relationships and friendships especially if you invested a lot of yourself into it, but If you sit back and assess the situation you know deep down you don’t need that person or that person doesn’t need or deserve you. 

I have gotten tired with zero tolerance to listening to people who always have one complain or the other about how nothing seems to go right. I absolutely cannot stand it and intentionally ignore calls and messages from certain people I KNOW just want to drain me internally (my sanity is way more important, and I can only function properly if I am internally and externally happy so I ignore that which needs to be). Where you are headed in life, not everyone can go with you. Those that don’t make the cut will find it hard to understand and accept but as long as you are in the right frame of mind and have peace inside, let it be. Understand that whenever you place your trust in man or things and not God, He will drag it from under you because He wants to be the phone you pick up to release your issues on, He wants to be the pillow you have drenched in tears when in reality He should be your first point of contact. “Deut. 6:15...The Lord your God is a jealous God....” 

If you are going through a time of extensive exhaustion, tiredness, emptiness and so on, be encouraged. God has not forgotten. He knows your name and every hair on your head. He is working at the background. If you have been asking non stop for something and you haven’t received it, may be God knows you are not ready for it yet, or He knows you don’t need it. Believe that this very moment, right now in this very space is where you are divinely supposed to be. That situation you are going through is on your divine “to-do” list, and thank God for trusting you with so much weight. You may also be going through something so that someone else in the same predicament will learn from you. Imagine a life with no pain, no heartbreaks and no disappointments? I don’t know about you but I feel it will be boring. I surely will not appreciate the rainbows and laughter as much as I do in this sinful world. Maybe God has closed a door and you keep fighting to keep it open-goodluck challenging or playing tug-of-war with God. 

In times when “no one understands”, run to God. If you lived a life that went hard for the devil, GO HARDER now that you know a God whose love is unconditional. When you get your head knitted into God, how you view situations and life will change. Don’t let go, don’t hurt them even though it will feel good. Don’t cuss her out. Pass that test. 

It’s thanksgiving month. Get a journal and write thank you notes to God every day. You don’t have much to thank Him for? are you reading this? does your brain work enough to understand what you see? oh you’re alive and breathing! You are not on life support! WOW! Your inhalation and exhalation is FREE! You ought to praise Him. Do something good for someone else. Those pair of shoes may look good on you, but it may look better on your neighbor. Let your life and love be infectious. Make others jealous and curious to find out about the God or joy you have ALL THE TIME. Don’t run to that guy you know is below your standards because “life” happened. You are strong and in control of your emotions. 

Let’s make a vow to thank God this month. (Don’t ask for anything else, Just praise Him like not a dang thing got in your way)....He will be your strength if you pour your weakness on Him, and give you beauty for ashes too #GetYoPraiseOn. 

You are beyond beautiful. Believe.

Friday, 9 November 2012

Excuse me...NOT!



So everyone that walks this earth has a “YOLO” excuse every now and then to act a fool (ME included). We all do stupid things or try to put logic to excuse an unacceptable behavior, or that act we know all too well we should not be engaging in. “YOLO”, “life is short”, “leggo!” are words we are too familiar with. 

Indeed, life is short so let’s live it in a way that when we cross-over to the other side and we are standing in front of God we are NOT ashamed.

 I was watching a show yesterday, and one of the casts was going through a tough and hard time in her life. She lost someone very dear to hear, and has been appearing to be under the influence on the show. As much as we should not be judging, I am of the opinion that people should not be left to handle situations wrongly because something happened in the past. I will never watch anyone I love mess up while I watch them from afar. It is never okay to excuse our reality on our circumstances....life and death, blessings and curses have been set before us. 

Yes! God understands every situation, but in my understanding of Him which is limited I believe He has given us wisdom and free will & we will be judged through and through of our every actions. 

I can never stress the importance of strong and supporting friends enough. People that are not just in your corner to be cheerleaders (the ones that are your “yayyy!” chanters without giving you honest feedback), but to really tell you “I love you, but you are about to act a fool.” 

People that have your best interest at heart, push you towards Christ and care for you like you are part of their flesh are those we should have in our corner. I know you’re extremely hurt, woe is you, the world is on your shoulders and no one understands you, BUT before you consume that entire bottle of your only “friends” (Jack & Daniel) that don’t judge you....HoldUp! Put that bottle down, God understands.

He is jealous for you and doesn’t want to share you with anything. Remember when God asked Eve what happened to her that she ate the forbidden fruit, AND like most of us sinners she tried to play down an excuse? and she even blamed the serpent saying it deceived her; while God maybe understood the temptation, she still had to face the consequences for her actions. 

Someone once said “excuses are monuments of nothingness, and those who practice those tools of incompetence are masters of nothing.”  Learn to master your emotions. When a stupid thought pops up in your head, silence it the best way you know how. Never give in to any stupid tricks that you know better than.  

If you know anyone that has become distant and is going through something, this is a charge to reach out to them and make sure they are handling their situation in the healthiest way possible.  No, I did not say you should go and call people out with violence and judgement because that will only turn ugly and unproductive. Make sure your motive is right and your emotions are centered. 

God forbid that anyone reading this stands before God with fear and trembling, and gives GOD an EXCUSE about why they lived life on earth on YOLO sprees. Totally ignoring the fact that you know you should have been more focused on eternal things. By God, we will ALL have testimonies on how we reflected His love on everyone we came across. 

We need to stop playing church y’all. Time is ticking. We don’t got time for none of that anymore. 

Being a real Christian will not come easy. There are things your peers will want to engage in but you can’t. Everyday you wake up, you will have to KILL your flesh. You will have to renew your mind and make the conscious daily decision to live for God. At first people will criticize you, call you boring and what not, but don’t let that stop you. Care ONLY about what God calls you at the end. FORGET ALL YOU DID IN THE PAST. As long as you have repented, he has wiped your slate clean and given you a new chance to try again. 

“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life”-Matthew 11:28 MSG


You are crazy, silly Beauty-FULL! (In & Out).

Wednesday, 31 October 2012

After God's Heart


So this has been on my mind for quite some time. Being in this dark world where good is bad, and bad is apparently “in” or normal, you struggle daily on how to be the christian you so desire. It’s not enough to tick “Christian” in that little box, or tweet “God is good” while you are planning on going to drop it like it’s hot in the club 5mins later. You know deep down in your heart that your “friends” (re-adjust those you permit to be around you because people should qualify to be in your life) are pushing you away from God, but you can’t mount up the courage to denounce your association because you don’t want to appear weak. As much as it’s important to know who you are as well as your limits, it is even more important to have a strong circle of committed friends around you who will GET ON THEIR FACE and pray with you like it is their lives being threatened. It is not enough to have them tweeting subliminals and planning on having someone beaten--as if it will change anything.

We should strive to follow God and not that guy that is willing to spend money at your request. Don’t be a gold digger. So he has all the money in the world.....okay? He is tired of chasing you (the person God has for you will not get tired of chasing you..best believe) so now you have started doing the chasing. You are “fighting” for what’s yours. Is it the wallet that’s yours or the owner of the wallet? Remember this: Prince Charming literally chased Cinderella, she never was caught stalking him. A lesson also in that: Cinderella NEVER had her breasts nearly tearing her shirt to get the attention of the Prince. Her goodies stayed where they needed to be--IN her clothes & the man that was meant for her still chased her. You don’t have any business being in skirts so short that you dare not drop anything on the ground because we both know it will be a mission to successfully pick it up without exposing all you possess. You want to be treated like royalty, but you look like a .....you get me. 

Maybe it is time to get a new set of friends, maybe it is time to pray for strength to be that Prov. 31 woman you so dearly want to be. Where you are going in life, you know pretty well that your “friends” have no business being around you. Friends are like elevators, they either take you up, or bring you down. Be around people that push you TOWARDS God, and not away. No, you cannot be in the club looking like everyone else and think you are going there to be the light. You are a walking Bible, being at certain places will confuse the readers no matter how valid your reasoning may be. Don’t be that girl that just goes with the flow of life; control your environment and lead others to God. Your life in itself should be a reflection of God on earth. 

You know how much time you spend with that new boyfriend? always texting ((hearts)) and writing his name on everything you can find and living for the moments you spend together? Cultivate the same silly, high-school relationship with God. He wants ALL your attention and heart. Refuse to be of this world. Shine that light, and shine it BRIGHT. God is too big to be your closet friend. 

James 4:7-10
So let God work his will in you. Yell a loud no to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and he’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet.

Proverbs 13:20

Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.

You are crazy, silly beautiful. Believe nothing else.

Monday, 29 October 2012

Treat Them How To Treat You.


Treat Them How To Treat You.

There is no limit to doing good. You can never exhaust yourself from being kind. Attitudes, anger and unforgiveness is an unfortunate waste of time and health (yes, emotions reflect on your physical health). Below are a few tricks I have learnt over the years. They were not the easiest lessons, but they are worth it at the end of the day.

Pay it forward: Ever have that rough day when you feel the need to be the devil’s little helper whenever someone comes your way? That feeling when you are convinced that you have the worst life ever? I have come to realize that going out of my way to be nice to a total stranger helps me. When you go to a grocery store or any retail store, after your bill has been paid, drop a little something for the next customer behind you. Give the cashier some money to reduce the total bill of the other person without being noticed. Giving has a way of making you feel good. (Imagine being in the person’s shoes. You are so mad at life, but a total stranger went out of their way to do good to you. Even if you are a rock, that will cause a happy feeling in you).

Speak with wisdom. The mouth is either your blessing or your curse. The choice is totally up to you to decide. There is beauty and so much character in a person who knows just when to speak, and what to say, and how to say it. Master the art. At a certain age or point in life, you should feel “too grown” to sit down and gossip or bash someone with your “friends” (real friends don’t got time for that, and should actually shut you down when you start). Before you say something, think about how it will benefit the listener, ask yourself if it is necessary, consider whether it will make the other person appear good or bad. Don’t be the carrier of bad news. It speaks VOLUMES about you. Don’t be that girl thats yapping at the mouth about the next girl’s jacked up life. Who said yours was any better? 

 Let it GO!!! I am sometimes convinced that the reason why some people find it hard to         release a person from their mind is because they may lose a part of themselves IF they forgive. You will rather have a truck run across you, reverse, and run across you again before you think about mending things that Tima did 5 years ago. Why? The more you hold on to the past, the more stuck you will be in moving on in your own life. Sometimes, Tima holds your breakthrough. God can purposely hold on to that “miracle” you have been trusting Him for until he “breaks” you to forgive the past. So what if she hurt you? LET IT GO! Then what if she did you dirty? LET IT GO! So what if she “disrespected” (Why are we so addicted to respect?) your aunty’s neighbors son-in-laws cat? LET IT GO! and move on to be the awesome soul behind all that funk.

"Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone."-Colossians 4:6

You are Crazy, Silly, Beautiful. (Believe NOTHING else)

Friday, 26 October 2012

The lady in the Mirror



Every day you have an issue with how you think you look. You embark on all the crazy, silly diets google is “wise” enough to offer. You keep a tab on the latest make-up products there are (so you can add MORE to your already more than enough ‘beauty regimen’), and you borrow money to buy all the designer things you can’t even afford just so you “measure up” in society. You attend all the parties in the world and mix with the “high and mighty” but you still hang your head in your pit of negative emotions. Something is still not there. No matter how much you have on you, you find more reasons as to how she’s taller, she’s slimmer, she’s with that guy, she has less make-up but she’s more pretty and so on. There is always something the next person beside you has that you feel you are not good enough to have. All of a sudden, there is trouble in paradise. 

Have you ever thought that these complexes are major distractions and road-blocks to taint your vision on what you should be doing with your fabulous life? You have so ignored that voice (of God) that speaks to you when you feel like the world is on your shoulders that you no longer hear Him. Who said we need all the physical things to enjoy life? I mean, they are a bonus but we don’t NEED them to survive. It’s not air, we will breathe. God placed all of us on earth for a purpose--which I believe is to bring people to Him in any way we possibly can--but if you don’t feel good enough according to the worlds standards, you surely won’t even try to accept that God in ALL His glory can use you in ALL your “nothingness” (tell those little people in your head to be gone).

This is a contagious diseased cycle because you will one day marry a man that thinks and believes in life the same way you do. Your children will become the same way because association either corrupts or influences. Their children will....you get the point. Needless to say, your generation will be RAGGEDY, TRASHY, & A ROYAL MESS. 

God made every one of us according to His likeness. He didn’t favor anyone over the next. He surely could care less about how you look outwardly. Afterall, our purpose should be on eternal things, and not things of this world. We are only here for a short while. Your abilities, talents, and gifts were given to you for His glory. Don’t compare your life to the next person, because with new levels in life, comes new devils in life. You have no idea what they are fighting. Stop! Find your purpose, own it, and rock it because it will be in style forever. 

Part of the problem can even be your fault. We have been given so many choices in life. Happiness is our choice, sadness, depression, satisfaction, contentment, what we put in  our mouths, how we smell, is ALL in our hands. 
Let’s quickly look at our identity according to God’s standard, which should be ours:
*I was created for a special purpose: Ephesians 1:8
*I am secure in who I am: Ephesians 2:20
*Sin is dead in my life: Romans 1:12
*There is growth in me: Colossians 2:7
*I have the mind of Christ: 1 Corinthians 2:16
*God’s Power lives in me: Ephesians 6:10
*I am a forgiver: Ephesians 4:32
*God is my father: 1 John 3:1-2
*I’m blessed with every spiritual blessing: Ephesians 1:3
*I have a new life: 2 Corinthians 5:17

Don’t let anybody tell you otherwise. You are crazy, silly, beautiful.