Friday, 22 November 2013

Solitary Confinement

There you are sitting in a room full of people in a cacophony of questions in your mind. You are drowning in the midst of people but you are in deep loneliness and isolation in your mind. You are confidently convinced that no one understands your pain. Your issues have isolated you. Your thoughts have isolated you. The voices in your head have drowned out the voices of the world, and you are ALL alone. So what if they left you? They weren't meant to stay anyway. So what if they talked about you? At least you are on someone's mind. You ask all these questions. Why did all this happen to you, and if God loves you so much how dare He allow such and such befall you. You are mad at Him, and have refused to let anyone speak life to your weakness. Voices start to whisper destructive thoughts into your heart; like “Maybe the world would be a better place without you if you take matters into your own hands.” Listen! The devil understands that the mind is a powerful tool that controls your entire life. Once he can plant some thoughts into your mind, he basically has you under his chokehold. That’s the last place you want to be in. Be careful!

Why do we wear struggles and pain like a crown? and why does it become a badge of honor when you can tell someone “woe is me. You just don’t understand what I’m going through?” What do you do when you feel like rejection and solitude is punishment and no longer protection? Can God trust you enough to believe that even when you feel like He doesn’t have your back that you will hold on to Him still? When you’re all you’ve got, and life has squeezed your very essence, will praise or poison come out of your mouth? What happened to the church being a place where one can borrow strength and faith and hope and love? Just because someone’s demons don’t look like yours doesn’t give you a pass to judge or condemn them. How do we intend to save people when we walk with a pep in our step like we have never known defeat? Forgetting that if it wasn’t for God’s grace our story would have been different?

What if you understood that your pain and your isolation was all for a reason? How would you react to your struggles now if you believed that they were all set in place for your development. After all, God chastises those He loves right? Whitney Houston said “I was not built to break.” Life may bend you but never let it break you. Your testimony was not given to you to shelf or file. It was given for the deliverance of others. God didn’t allow you pass through that test for no reason. He has better things to do other than frustrate you. I promise! Never let life cajole you into believing that you are all alone. T.D Jakes said “Rejection is not a bad thing because God always isolates greatness.” Don’t let the world make you think they have it all together. People just aren’t brave enough to let the world see that they are hurting. I can confirm that your story may be different from mine, but we all feel pain now and then. Make use of your isolation for preparation to succeed. Let it mould you into the best you. It is with this understanding that you will find the lesson in the trial. It will all make sense when you let yourself know it won’t last always, and God is trying to show you something to show other people.

“Is anyone crying for help? God is listening,
ready to rescue you. If your heart is broken, you’ll find God right there;
if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath. Disciples so often get into trouble; still, God is there every time. He’s your bodyguard, shielding every bone;
not even a finger gets broken.” Ps 34:17-20 (MSG)

The harder you fight for control over your life, the longer your mind torments you. The more you see that you were made for God is the moment you gain liberty, or else until he has control over you He will break you over and over and over again (If you don’t believe try it out and let me know what happens.) Stop running away from God. Run to Him. This torment of your mind is only God tugging at your heart trying to get your attention. He is JEALOUS for you. Drop your little cares at His feet, and leave them there. He made you and knows what to do with them. Someone said you won’t be anything? By the time God is done with you they will see that through Him, you are everything. Wipe your tears, and pick your face off the ground and trust the plans God has for you. He’s got your back. When you feel like no one understands, He understands, and more than anything He wants you to communicate with Him.

I love you and mean well. I believe in all that you are, and all you have potential to be. You are beauty-FULL. Believe nothing else.

Favor O.

Thursday, 14 November 2013

Not One Of Them.

Growing up, my mother constantly had pep talks with my siblings and I. Yes! She took (and still takes) parenting extremely serious. One of the talks I recall was she trying to help me see that I couldn’t behave like anyone else. I didn’t understand why I was restricted from “acting a fool” (if you may) with my friends. I used to struggle internally at a point because I just wanted to be a normal kid. After all, I didn’t ask to be born a PK (Pastor’s Kid) right? WRONG. I now see that more than any titles or roles, she was doing this for me. It is my gain that I stayed on the straight and narrow. Not hers. Thank God for growth. Looking back, I am immensely grateful for all those talks that have formed and shaped my reality. I went through high school, and university with my mother’s voice ringing in my heart. Did I have times when I almost forgot I wasn’t one of them? Yes! But the older I got, and allowed maturity to guide me, those words intensified and thankfully began to make sense. Today, when temptation rises, I am reminded that I am not like them. 1. Cor. 6:20 “you were bought at a high price...” 

When negative, corrupt or perverse thoughts arise in your mind, remember: You are NOT one of them. 

When someone gives you a reason to curse them out, remember: You are NOT one of them. 

When you are tired of “being a Christian” (whatever that means), remember: You are NOT one of them. 

Who are “they”? 

They are those that have decided they would rather live their lives outside God’s will. It is too heavy a price for them to serve God, and so they are their own gods. They run freely through life without a care in the world forgetting that: “there is a way that seems right to a man, but the end is destruction” Prov. 14:12 They don’t believe God wants their whole hearts, but think it’s an a la carte menu that they can choose when and when not to obey Him. They are the unbelievers who have chosen their way above God’s. They are the blind that have not yet seen the fullness of God’s power. Their lives have reflected they can do life by themselves; with or without His help.

Ladies, we have seen the light, and have chosen to walk boldly in it. You are one of God’s limited edition. Don’t let anything dull your shine. Let your character in front and behind doors impress Christ. Let your speech be laced with grace. Allow your actions and reflections to be led by God all the time. Christianity is not a part-time job. There’s also no leave. You’re in it till the very end. You are Christ’s royalty. Let those around you notice a change in you and even wonder what God this is that has turned your life around.

When ANYTHING tries to interrupt your flow of Christ, whisper to yourself: I am NOT one of them.
I believe in you. I trust you. I mean well. I have your back. You can do it. Remain Beauty-FULL. Have a fabulous weekend and week ahead.


Favor O.

Monday, 28 October 2013

The Gratitude Challenge.

As we ALL know, it's Thanksgiving month/season. God has been SO SO SO good to us whether we realize it or not. He has remained faithful even when we threw Him under the bus consciously or unconsciously. Personally, I am beyond excited because truth be told, I started this blog with little to no expectations of anyone seriously reading it because I've had 3-4 blogs in the past that ended up with maybe just me as the writer and the reader. God just placed this blog on my heart and although skeptical I was, I said well I'll obey You and see where this goes. Anyway, within the past year, I've had over 5,000+ views on this blog and whether it's the same old people clicking on it, I'm grateful that someone cares enough to see what I have to say about anything (grammatical errors and no punctuation manners whatsoever). The fact that God believes I matter enough to have so many views, while I try to make Him famous, God truly sits up there. #WontHeDoIt? I've come to understand God a bit more through the past year, and even through reading some of the posts I've written. So this blog is therapy for you and even me. Without much further ado, I decided that since it's thanksgiving month (November) and my blog turning ONE YEAR OLD (In October! WOOP WOOP!!) I should put up a befitting challenge with a grande giveaway to whoever does the most, and takes the challenge serious with a sincere heart.

Retrieved from The Benefits of Gratitude (Psychology Today):

"Gratitude is an emotion expressing appreciation for  what one has—as opposed to, say, a consumer-oriented emphasis  on what one wants or needs—and is currently receiving a great deal of attention  as a facet of positive psychology. Gratitude is what gets poured into the glass to make it half full. Studies show that gratitude not only can be deliberately cultivated but can increase levels of well-being and happiness among those who  do cultivate it.  In addition, grateful thinking—and especially expression of it to others—is associated with increased levels of energy, optimism, and empathy."

PS: Credit to my sister for her unfailing gratitude tweets every November. She planted this thought in my heart.

So the challenge is simple: For every day in November, tweet out 10 things you're grateful for with the hashtag #GratitudeChallenge so I can keep track of who's tweeting. I will be tweeting as well too. It's so simple right? Now you can't miss a day, let's try and put out 300 tweets by November 30th. Now don't tweet out "Thank God for my shoe" and "Thank God for my shoelace" because while you're happy about that, I can assure you that God did bigger and better things. No cheating! Tell a friend, to tell a friend. Let's put out heavily positive vibes around this month will you? For you Instagram lovers, you can also post pictures of "Random acts of Kindness" where you go out of your way to do something nice for a total stranger or someone that can't give you back anything in return. Use the hashtag #GratitudeChallenge and tag me as well so I see every post. My Instagram name is: @favor_elizabeth. So the most tweets and posts on Instagram will win.

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”-Ralph Waldo Emerson

1 Thessalonians 5:18
"In EVERYTHING give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus."

I will announce the prize at the end of the month (Just so no one is fueled to participate out of greed). The winner will be announced as well. PS: #iVow to put out a new blog post every week or max every two weeks, so help me God. I love you and believe in you. LET'S GO!!!!
So my beautiful ladies, and my handsome gentlemen let's gear up to spread good vibes in November while keeping our characters in check. Stay CLASSY and BEAUTY-FULL! You're the only Bible someone may get to read, be careful of what your pages are saying.

Favor O.

Thursday, 3 October 2013

Get Filtering.

NB: This is going to be a far from organized post because I currently feel scatter-brained and I used up my last bit of organization on my dissertation. Bear with me.

I just successfully completed and submitted my Postgraduate Thesis (reason why blogging was shelved). As I reflected on the past year, I decided to drop a few lessons I learnt along the way. I rarely ask for advice/opinions and such. Not because I know it all; in fact, I know not enough. I have chosen this route because I have come to realize the heart and mind is a very sensitive place. I cannot afford to run to every outlet available and drag in views and opinions from just everywhere. I also don't allow just anybody speak to my heart. You know those random people you haven't seen before or haven't spoken to in years that call you and say "The Lord told me to tell you..." No boo! Bye. When you open up your heart to Tom, Rick & Harry, they will fill you up with their experiences, their views, their I-know-it-all attitudes that may cloud the voices in your own heart. You may begin to doubt the very own voice of God in you, and replace it with the lies that they feed you with. There were days during the past year when I felt I just could not go on. Days when I doubted my abilities and strengths. Days when throwing in the towel was more convenient, but I had to remember the voices inside of me that reminded me of who I am. Three simple lessons that I learnt this past year:

1. People can only relate to you based on their experiences: Ever tried talking to someone on something you may be facing, and you start getting upset when their views don't align with yours? I am very guilty of this. I shut down conversations so fast when my ideas don't line up with the next persons. I have had to understand that I cannot expect someone from a broken home to believe in love and commitment as firmly as I do. I cannot expect someone that has been taught to put their trust in money to trust in God as much as I do. This is no flaw in their character; experiences have just shaped their minds to view the world through different lenses than I. My family is my biggest cheerleader in the world. When I don't believe in me, they do. It makes no sense to me sometimes because I just want to feel what I'm feeling, and understand me a little more, but they see the giant in me and help me understand the more I try to understand my sorrow, the more it will overshadow the victory in me. Days when I tried to encourage my classmates that we will get through the program without losing our minds, and they didn't believe me because they never understood positivity in the midst of negativity. I made no sense to them. What was second nature to me was foreign to them. Our backgrounds were not one. Ever heard the saying "you can only give what you have?" Exactly. 

2. Filter the voices that enter your ears. When you are down, never compare yourself to someone worse than you are. This is called "downward social comparison" (Your Psychology lesson for the day. There you go) LOL. You know it's always easier to take your issues to someone who lives that route, after all they won't judge you or look down on you. This is the worst mistake you can make. Instead of pulling you up from where you are, they will speak into your heart words that will permit you to remain as you are, and even "advice" you to follow them on dangerous journeys you aren't prepared for. Sis, when you don't understand what is going on inside of you, instead of picking up the phone to call Sophie, pick up your bible to see what God says. I admit, there are times when I can't think of the bible verse I should be reading, but thank God for technology and the internet...Google is your friend. Search for bible verses on sadness, trusting God, friendships etc. There is a word for everything in life. Whoever said life didn't come with a manual surely never discovered a Bible. After consulting the bible, you can then call on a trustworthy friend that you are sure will point you  towards Christ at the end of the day, and not soothe your negativity and promote it.

3. Do your part. Yes! All is not wrong with the world because John and Sue and Nancy did such and such. When they were doing what they were doing, what were YOU doing? Exactly. When we don't understand what is happening, we find it very easy to blame everyone around us but ourselves. Let me tell you, if you ever start your day without setting the tone before you get up from the bed, life and the devil will help you set it and you will not like the outcome. Learn the Bible for yourself. You cannot please the world and please God at the same time. Discover what matters for your life, and work towards it. Stop fighting battles that don't mean anything. Your sanity is key. Positive self-talk is always good. There are enough people in the world who don't like you, believe in you or don't care about you, care about yourself. VOTE FOR YOU. Let go of what happened to you yesterday and push for today. Your past did not define you, it just prepared you for today. "You can't expect to have beauty when you keep holding on to ashes." You must see yourself the way you want to be, and not by what is happening now. Be able to counter every voice that negates the word of God inside you. Cultivate your mind and your happiness. 

*Proverbs 4:23: Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.
*Luke 21:34But watch yourselves lest your hearts be weighed down with dissipation and drunkenness and cares of this life, and that day come upon you suddenly like a trap.
*Psalm 19:14: Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.


“Because God has made us for Himself, our hearts are restless until they rest in Him.” 
― Augustine of Hippo

Run to God, and watch your cares run away. God wants your whole heart. Until you understand that, you will never know peace. iPromise.

Don't stop running. Don't stop flying. You can do it. I believe in you. I mean well.
(Most Importantly: I LOVE YOU). You are BEAUTY-FULL! 

Favor O.

Saturday, 13 July 2013

The Surrender

Ever carried so much weight like grocery bags or anything heavy, and someone offers to help you carry it? Do you remember how freeing and relaxed you feel immediately? That feeling is everything. To know that someone cares enough to carry your weight for you. This feeling is also synonymous to a car running on "E". There is a demand for a refill and the car (us) can no longer go on without fuel.
So many times we allow the world to weigh us down, and all its burdens just seem like a burden too much to carry alone. You stay pressing into God and serving Him and things around you just keep happening that your heart is too fragile to carry. It's like "God!!! what is ALL this for? What ELSE do you need from me?" Guess what? God is waiting for us to drop our bags and weights at His feet and let Him carry them for us. Place all your eggs in His basket (that's the safest place they can ever be). Remember singing "I surrender all..." but in actuality we have not surrendered anything. We sing it but right after the song and the service we carry all the baggage we came with as if God will fight with us to take it from us. He's a gentleman. He doesn't force. You have to be willing to give them to Him. I've come to realize that when you are trying so hard to stay on the straight and narrow, the devil throws things at you or people close to you to shake you up. While you are also trying to take care of God's business, people will not always understand why you can't just serve Him alone and mind your business or you're doing the most. That's okay. I used to live in people bondage wondering what people will say, and how it will hurt when negativity comes. The moment I dropped that care was when I realized I was living fully and effectively.

People are not always cheerleaders for growth and development. They like the familiar and commonplace. It is way too costly to remain as you are. That may mean you must break away from some people that stunt your growth, and focus on yourself and listen to God's voice inside you. Constantly, people accuse me of carrying other people's crosses. I am very sensitive passionate about people. Especially those closest to me, and when they are down I am too.I literally go on my face and cry out to God as if the burden is mine.When your heart bleeds for others, you are doing something right. I believe life should be that way. All it takes is a moment to define all that matters in life. Life throws so many curve balls that try to taint our vision and darken our skies, but we MUST be reminded of the promises of God. He said "He will never leave nor forsake us"-Deut. 31:6. 

When we can no longer carry on, He reminds us to "Seek the LORD and his strength;  seek his presence continually!"-1 Chron. 16:11 (It may be hard to go before Him in some seasons of life, but NEVER leave his presence. No.Matter.What)

Something else I have realized and I'm guilty of  is you shouldn't expect people to use your personal standards to run their lives. They have their own race to run, and their race may be different from yours. They have their own seasons, as do you. We learn at different paces. Don't beat yourself up because such and such happened. You have your life to live. Pray for others and LET IT GO. God sees your heart and that's all there is to it. So this week, I challenge each and every one of you reading this to write down all your cares/worries/frustrations/set backs and such and literally set them on FIRE. Yes! Like let your eyes see your cares being burnt. Prayerfully drop them at the feet of Jesus and LEAVE THEM ALONE. Walk in your freedom. This too HAS PASSED. There is joy in letting go, and freedom in the surrender. Walk like you know.

This season you may be facing is a lesson and a blessing that reveals so much about life and yourself you never knew existed. Take in the moments. Count your many blessings.

I believe in you.. God wants your WHOLE heart. Let Him take it and mould it to what He wants. This time of moulding may hurt but the result is worth the pain. Stay in His face. I love you & ultimately mean well. 

You are beauty-FULL. Believe NOTHING else.

Favor O.

Sunday, 7 July 2013

What REALLY is iVow?

iVow is a group created for serious-minded ladies after God's heart. It is a commitment to living an extraordinary life. After all, we are extraordinary people created for signs and wonders. The mission is to glorify God in our minds, bodies and spirits. This group is a safe place for ladies to lift one another up and be reminded of the greatness within. This is a no-judgement zone. On earth, we are God's hands and feet. With our hands we touch the broken. We heal the sick. We give to those in need. With our feet, we go out of our comfort zones and make Jesus popular through our everyday lives. iVow is absolutely pro-celibacy. We believe our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit, and as long as there is no ring on our fingers, we will not engage in sexual activities. We are valuable women that have refused to act like the world because we are not of the world. We are alert tourists passing through earth with the Heaven-mentality.

iVow is a movement waiting to explode. The earth is our mission-field. Heaven is our destination. We say what we mean, and we mean what we say.

iVow Pledge:

I vow to be a woman after God's heart.

I will conduct my activities in a way that will reflect the God in me.

I vow to honor God with my words, actions and thoughts.

I will move and let the Spirit of God guide me.

I'm healthy in my mind, body and spirit.

My mind is free of toxic thoughts.

My body is God's holy temple. Therefore, it doesn't engage in illegal pleasure.

My spirit is desperate for God.

I vow to stay committed to living an extraordinary life.

My lips will only speak positive and uplifting words. My mouth will not be used to bash, demean or bring down. My words are like honey-Sweet and healing.

I will be a blessing to those I encounter; especially my sisters.

I will think only of what is pure, lovely and of good report.

I was bought with a price. Therefore, I am valuable.

When issues arise, I will practice self-control and be reminded of the God I serve.

I will walk in my greatness and remain the original version of myself.

I am a unique and limited edition of God's best ladies.

Yes! I am led by God. 

Got a suggestion? Let me know. Let's take Jesus to the world and stay classy while doing so, will you?

Remain beauty-FULL and smile this week. Your issues don't define you. You have authority to trample on snakes and scorpions, and to overcome the powers of the enemy (Luke 10:19). Walk like you believe this.

I LOVE you! I believe in you. I mean well.

Favor O.

Friday, 14 June 2013

On Humility.

**James 4:6 (CEB): But he gives us more grace. This is why it says, God stands against the proud, but favors the humble.

**Philippians 2:3 (CEB): Don’t do anything for selfish purposes, but with humility think of others as better than yourselves.

"Humility, in various interpretations, is widely seen as a virtue in many religious and philosophical traditions, being connected with notions of egoLESSness" (Wikipedia)

Remember when you sat down with your "house-help" to really find out what you could do to help him/her? Or the day you volunteered to cook so he/she could have a day off?

Remember when you apologized for being rude and unnecessarily annoying to your co-worker/friend/or any of your subordinates?

Remember when you arrived super early to church and you volunteered to give your seat to that old and wrinkled man that crawled in half-way through the service?

....Yeah! I don't remember either.

Many of us constantly fight with the idea of humbling ourselves. Why do we walk with a thousand chips on our shoulder? who informed us that we are better than the next person? Have you ever considered that one phone call, one robbery incident, one missed call could potentially terminate "ALL" that you are? Let me remind most of you that ball on your parents money, and have the nerve to command and order your parents drivers and workers: ((God forbid)) that something should happen to your parents and you lose them, I fear for where life will place you. I agree that there are times when it is so hard to show humility. We have natural desires to be right about anything; we also face difficulty trying not to complain about an unfavorable situation.

Pride has NEVER been a good look and NEVER will be! #ActLikeYaKnow!

There is nothing as beautiful and rare as seeing a highly respected and valued person treat those higher and most especially lower with utmost equality and respect. If you knew what it took me to get to where I am, you will shut your mouth Favor! NO! I won't. God placed you in that position to lead others just as He would. He placed to there to be a reflection of Him since He no longer is here on earth. You were not given that position to abuse power and treat other people like the scum of the earth. To that girl who ties your face and curses other girls that have not been opportune to have all your parents were fortunate to give you: You will never know where the road of life will take you. Make investments in everyday people you meet because tomorrow is not assured and who knows whose door you will painfully and dreadfully have to knock on in need of help? Ask Joseph. Remember when his brothers hated him and what not? and later had to go to him for help? I can assure you they were not feeling as proud as they once were. Besides, even not for selfish gain treating people properly is the better way. Just to know that you are responsible for the smile on someone's face, or the reason that person's self-esteem escalated just provides inner joy.

To you who has been taught by your parents all your life that you are better than the next person, I apologize on their behalf for failing and misinforming you, but everyone deserves all that pertains to life and godliness. The next time you are about to open your mouth and slam that girl for not doing what you asked her to do, put yourself in her shoes and "observe shut-up." The next time you offend someone or someone offends you, reach out to them and clear the air. You don't always have to be the offender to seek peace. Let your boss remind you of who you do not want to be. Let him/her be your motivation. Smile at people. Holding your chin up communicates pride too. Let your presence be sweet and graceful. You garner respect by treating people with value. You are valuable aren't you? Empower others to recognize their worth. Don't be the reason a person flirts with suicidal thoughts.

"Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.-C.S Lewis"

"It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels.-Saint Augustine."

At one point or another we face moments where our pride gets in the way of our greatness, there is no condemnation here. Only grace. Seek God and ask Him to break your heart and tear out characters that do not reflect Him. Ask Him to replace your ugliness for beauty and grace. This week, I challenge you to turn your view from yourself, and pleasantly shock someone else by doing something nice and unexpected. Apologize to that hurt person. Say thank you even though the person is paid to serve you. Become like an angel and break-up with your devils. Step out of your self-given character and walk into your God-given character. "...He who humbles himself will be exalted."

You have it IN you. Try and see that the grass is greener on the other side.

I believe in you. I trust you. I mean well. I love you.

Remain beauty-FULL and believe nothing else.

Favor O.

Friday, 3 May 2013


PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: SIN IS NOT IN. (Forget what society says. People and policies may change, but God's word remains constant).

What is going on with the world? Evil and wickedness have reached new levels and dimensions. We are quick to open our mouths and curse, and the next breath we are "praising God" all at the same time. Who are we? What do we even want? Do we know? We appear so reserved and proper but our minds are clouded with darkness. The world has perverted EVEN the church when we should influence the world. Stepping outside your home you cannot tell who the unbeliever is and who the Christian is. Lord knows what would happen if God was living among us. Easter passes and we forget the tears we shed while we watched The Passion Of The Christ. I claim to be sick and tired of so many things in my life but I find myself accommodating them. No one knows the time nor hour God will return but with the events going on I dare to say we do not have that much time left. We have to hate sin FORREAL! Like not just lip service but actual hate and intolerance. How is it okay for Christians to do the same things as unbelievers? I will use myself as an example. I just wrapped up my classes in grad school and as a celebration my classmates have invited me to go on a "pub-crawl" (going from one pub to the next and getting drunk all in the name of "fun"). If I had a weak conscience BEST believe I would take up the offer in a heartbeat and go along. Then I remember I am not one of them. I am supposed to be the light that shines in the darkness, I should not contribute to the blindness there is.

Colossians 3:5-6: "So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world.  Because of these sins, the anger of God is coming."

Galatians 5:19-21: "When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures,  idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division,  envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God."


Who told us it's okay to slip up now and then? Yes! we are not perfect but ..."Should we continue to sin so that grace may abound?" Have you realized that every time you sin you grieve God? I fall now and then but I do not let my fall have me. I reclaim my life and put the devil in his place. When was the last time you cracked open your bible? When last did you sit in silence and allow the presence of God to move over you? When last did you act like Christ? We make up so many excuses to why we can't go to church or do the right things, but without pause we engage in situations we have no business engaging in. With our lips we talk about how we love God and how He is our God, but our lives tell THE REAL story. If God could come and spend the night in your home, will what He sees ignite happiness or grieve Him? Let's not forget that he is Omnipresent and Omniscient (He is everywhere and He knows ALL) But we tend to forget since we cannot see Him with our eyes. We are not of this world. Therefore we should not act like the world.

Enough is enough yo! We have to put our lives where our mouth is. "Only God can judge me" is a major pet-peeve I have. I will prefer for man to judge me because I will fix up (If I am smart) than allowing God judge me on Judgement day when I know I will either be in Heaven or Hell at the end of the judgement. While we have time, let's get our acts together. FIND AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER. Let someone you trust be able to check you when you fall. We must put an end to sin. We must start to begin to live for God. PLEASE!!! The thought of hell is mighty scary. It is real and it exists. Any relationship that does not glorify God put an end to it. Any activities that distract you from God cut them out. You may think you can live behind your closed doors where no one is watching but GOD SEES. Control your thoughts. Control your language. LADIES: I know summer is fast approaching, but PLEASE control your "dressing". Do not become a nudist all in the name of "heat". All those breast and thigh pictures must end. You are worth more and not Tom, not Rick and definitely not Harry should be able to see all the beauty you are. Keep yourself covered for him who God will send when He knows you are ready. Modest is hottest. Also, Send that boy who has no business in your pants an eviction letter. His time is up. If you are not married; I do not care if you are engaged, you have NO business and NO justification and NO right from Jesus to engage in any acts that are sexual in nature. Feel free to interprete as you like but you know what I mean. Just stop!!! (I just had to get that out.)

Proverbs 28:13: "People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy."

Luke 17:3-4: "So watch yourselves! “If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive. Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.”

Let's do better. To get more out of life you must be willing to take on challenges you have not yet attempted. Let's love this God with our lives. So what if you slipped last night? God is not interested in counting your wrongs. He is waiting with open arms to accept you as long as you're ready to repent with an honest heart. He is too forgiving and too loving. Man will fail you, and man will judge you but God is TOO busy loving up on you. Run to this God who is the most powerful. Tell sin BYE! I'm done with you. You don't rule me no more.

4 Ways to Receive Jesus in Your Life.

1) Admit that you are a sinner and in need of God (Romans 6:23)
2) Abandon your old life and the belief that you are your source (Acts 16:31)
3) Accept Jesus' payment for your sins on the cross (John 3:16)
4) Acknowledge (and honestly trust) Jesus as your Lord, Source and Savior and rely solely on Him         (Acts 4:12)

I believe in you. We can do this. We are on a mission. We must operate on an extraordinary level.
Hold my hands, and I'll try to hold yours for as long as you let me. I love you. I mean well. I am concerned about your future and where you spend eternity. You Only Live Once: don't spend your one chance acting something stupid.
Jesus is EVERYthing. Act like you know!

Remember: You are beauty-full. Accept nothing else.

Favor O.

Sunday, 17 March 2013

Who's in Yo Corner?

Let's get down to it. Who's in your corner? Does this person add value to your life or do they exist as a source of depression to your life that encounters with them leave you stressed and exhausted? Give yourself a people evaluation. I strongly believe in loving people, but not every Tom, Rick and Harry should be in your life for that reason. I'm talking about your close circle. So what if you were close in college or high school? Your lives may have changed and you are at different levels and stages. The bond you shared no more exists...nor should it. I am all for personal development and growth. I am NOT interested in having people around me that only want to gossip about every pair of legs that walk the surface of the earth. Sooner or later, you find yourself having "basket-mouth" issues. You are no more a safe place for people to come to. Does your "BEST" friend exist to be your friday night club crawl buddy? Your lets-see-who-gets-drunk-first girl? I'm sorry to announce but that sounds like your WORST friend. You know that picture that says "a good friend will bail you out of jail, but your best friend will be sitting right next to you saying 'we screwed up'"? I absolutely beg to differ. Your best friend will smack you across the head for being so silly. I just believe one friend must be able to lead the other right. I love Jesus with EVERY cell in my being, and my life is not a joke. A lot of people have not reached this point in their life and it makes no sense to them why you are the way you are. They will try to bring out the dead and buried part of your life, and if you give them access you will be back to square one. 

People should QUALIFY to be in your life. No, I don't mean they have to carry the same designer purses, have all the inches of human hair and all the physical things that mean nothing. I'm talking about they should mentally stimulate you and you should see something in them you aspire to attain. Yes, you should have fun with whoever is in your life. However, your definition of fun and their fun must agree. It should not be a task on planning a fun night that all parties will enjoy. Don't just hang out with everyone because everyone else is hanging out. Choose your crowds and where you should be seen. I'm not sure about everyone else but I do not feel comfortable in club settings at all. It bothers my spirit so much, but it boils down to 2 Cor. 6:14 Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil?" I'm not going to front and come off all holy and blameless, many times I have inconvenienced and hurt God by going with the crowd just because I did not want to be the "party pooper" and the "kill-joy", but I'm at a (liberating and free) place in my life that I am very fine with being odd and "boring" if that means I'm not living in sin. If Jesus is happy with your actions, forget about everyone else. 

We can all quote the famous 1 Cor. 15:33 "But don’t fool yourselves. Don’t let yourselves be poisoned by this anti-resurrection loose talk. “Bad company ruins good manners.” How often does this verse influence your life? What are your personal boundaries that nothing on earth will allow you cross them? Discover the beauty of boundaries. Never EVER just "go with the flow." Every single action or reaction has a compounding effect over time. One decision will move you closer to your mark or away from it. There are no grey areas. What kind of conversations do you have? Col. 3:18 CLEARLY says: "But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth." These are not my words. Jesus said them and whoever considers themselves Christians should be submitted to His words. Cursing and using all the F-grenades and what not are not only unlady-like but just so crass and dirty. The bible also clearly says "From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so."-James 3:10. 

Anyone that puts you in a position that contradicts what you believe in should be deleted from your life. Love them and wish them well but you can't hang out like you used to. Things have changed and so have you. We are on a mission to get to Heaven, and nothing and absolutely NO ONE should delay your journey. Drop them LIKE IT'S HOT. Bad friends are easy to find. Good friends are rare. Before you find that friend, be that friend. Push your friends to Christ, and let them push you to Him too. You may have to go through a season of being alone, but it won't last forever. You will experience freedom and completeness once you have the right people around you. Guilt may come, but shut that mug down! You are doing the right thing by doing what's best for you. It will hurt, but you will heal. Run to God, and He will run to you. 

I mean well. I am not perfect, but each day we should strive to attain excellence in all things. I believe in You. Hold my hands, and I'll hold yours. God is EVERYthing. Heaven is the destination (we are on transit on earth). Create what lasts. I love you. You are beauty-FULL. 

Favor O. 

Tuesday, 26 February 2013

The Battle of Time & Contentment.

There is something in the air. Everyone except you is getting engaged, getting married, getting a promotion, getting a job, getting success and open doors, getting, Getting, & GETTING more from every angle of the world. You look at shows on TV and people in Hollywood that are living worse lives than you, but their flourishing. Let me tell you, they have major and deep rooted issues like us, and even worse, but the media will not show you that part. It is not all roses in Hollywood, in fact, it is a lot of thorns and weeds. Then you look back at yourself, and it doesn't even make sense as to why you are still where you are. "Lord, what really is going on? have You forgotten about me? Do you hear the prayers I have prayed or are they on a waiting list?" Sometimes we even get mad at God and try to work out what we want for ourselves. After all, God seems to be dealing with the other bagillion people on the earth. (You can not speed up God's time. You may make something temporarily pleasure and pacify your discontentment or selfishness, but in the long run it will self-destruct.)
As we all know the Bible verses that talk about time: Ecc 3

There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:

A right time for birth and another for death,
A right time to plant and another to reap,
A right time to kill and another to heal,
A right time to destroy and another to construct,
A right time to cry and another to laugh,
A right time to lament and another to cheer,
A right time to make love and another to abstain,
A right time to embrace and another to part,
A right time to search and another to count your losses,
A right time to hold on and another to let go,
A right time to rip out and another to mend,
A right time to shut up and another to speak up,
A right time to love and another to hate,
A right time to wage war and another to make peace.

If you look deeper, you will understand that God understands all your cares and He knows what is best for you. Just because it hasn't happened does not mean He has forgotten or he does not listen. Maybe He is trying to tell you it is NOT your time yet. You want a man, but you spend time discussing with your girlfriends how "all men are dogs" (best believe all the dogs and their cousins will holla at you). You NEED a man, but you do not have one submissive vein in you. You will prefer to have your arm cut off before you submit. You have praaaaaayyyyyyed, and fasssssssstttttteeeedddd (in fact you have lost so much weight from the fast) but the man does not even look at you twice. God is not stupid! There is a reason why your "prayers" are not there yet. It does not even take a prophet to look into your matter. Common sense will let you know. If God in all His omniscience knows that you are not prepared to handle something, or you do not have the ability to manage something, rest your understanding on that fact that IT WILL NOT COME.

Do not place your measuring stick close to your friends or people around you. You do not know the level they are in, or you do not know what they did to get to where they are. They may look happy on the outside but who knows if God told them to close that "open" door they are experiencing, and they disobeyed? Your race is different. The only place you should look is up to the Heavens!

"If they obey and serve him, they shall spend their days in prosperity, and their years in pleasures."-Job 36:11

"Let your character be free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, "I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you,"- Hebrews 13:5

"Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded."-James 4:8

Instead of focusing on what you do not have and looking for a way to attract it, spend time developing yourself. Read books to develop you, read the Bible to make you the ideal person with the proper character for whatever area it is you feel incomplete in. When you spend time doing God's business, He will look into your business. Don't sit and let satan pour lies into your head or remind you of your past being the reason why you are where you are. Worrying has no gain. It will not change the situation. It will only frustrate and depress you. God has a better plan. Do your part by spending time in the Word, understanding the heart beat of God and He will do His part. We all face discontentment every now and then (me included). However, we cannot let the thoughts overwhelm or control our outlook on life.

Some people even have all the physical things that define "happiness" but they are experiencing internal hunger. Something is just not there. This is a vacancy for God. Think of a car without fuel. You may have the baddest rims and all the car accessory it takes to externally beautify your car but if there is no fuel or gas in it, it will take you nowhere. Same way if you have all the external things, but have no fuel in your Jesus tank you will experience all kinds and stages of emptiness and discontentment. Trust me. I won't lie to you. After a while, everything you have becomes boring and old. Pray for God to deal with that area. Let me just say, we will NEVER have all we want (I can imagine your faces, and screaming "I must get those new shoes first"- REST!), but the success in this fact is that with contentment, it will not be an issue for us. Let us vow to be satisfied and content with what we have. Ask for contentment with your portion. 

Random: Have you ever realized that people in villages are SUPER content? They don't have quarter of what we have but they burst with internal joy. Then we that need more space to store all our possessions are angry at the world. We are such greedy beings! SMH.

Learn to say a prayer to the tune of:
"Lord I thank You for my portion. I am grateful for ALL I am blessed to have. You are a good God, and You do all things well. I have food to eat, a wonderful place to sleep, the air I breathe is free, I am not on life support. I have clothes on my back and shoes on my feet. In fact, I can even wear fresh different clothes this whole week without repeating any. My problems are someone else's prayer. Wow! Lord, I thank You for holding time in Your hands, You know my desires, if they are not Your will, I am content. If I do not get anything else, I thank you for the blessings I already have. I am content, and all my needs are met. I praise and worship You. Thank you Lord, In Jesus name! Amen.

Reminder: Don't forget to repeat your iVow pledges.
I love you. You are beauty-FULL. I believe in you. Go and be great.

Favor Omakwu.

Saturday, 9 February 2013

Fighting Temptations.

"Eat those doughnuts, it's so little it can't do much damage"
"Click on that link, see what it really is"
"Just one puff. You won't get hooked with just one puff"
"Tell people about how she sleeps around. After all, she spreads stuff about you"

......and so on...... are every day demons we fight with.Temptation goes back to the beginning of time when the serpent tempted Eve to eat of the tree that God commanded her not to. As we all know, she and Adam were punished. Each and every day we roll on the bed before we get up it is up to us to control how our day goes and not allow our days to control us. This world is SO evil that evil just is more enticing and we get that moment of pleasure after acting a fool in the real sense. Have you ever realized that when someone puts a limitation on you doing something that is the moment the forbidden thing is all the more appealing? Human nature which is sinful nature is responsible for that. Are we abnormal or "bad" for being tempted? absolutely not. Even Jesus was tempted by the devil. This is not a pass for bad behavior. Guard your heart. 

I recently read "The Compound Effect" by Darren Hardy ((Amazing book.)) It talks about how everyday little "insignificant" decisions have accumulated results or consequences-good or bad. Don't think that one decision to buy that KFC bucket of chicken once in a month won't add a couple inches around your waistline in few months/years. You are not a trash can. Your body is a temple and a sacred place. The fastest channel to our mind is through our eyes and ears. Our senses are so susceptible to a lot of things that we are sometimes unconsciously nursing godless thoughts and trying to down play their intensities. It is just one night of getting high, and everyone does it regularly. Are you everyone? Will you stand with everyone when God is questioning you? Is it worth your eternity? These are real questions. Matt 26:41 "Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

We are all very familiar with our demons. So, it is wisest that we create boundaries. Yes! discover the beauty of boundaries. Identify what triggers or sets off your weakness and make a conscious and intentional decision to stay away from it. If you need to talk it out, find a person you trust with your life. This should be a person that will prayerfully help or guide you (and also someone's life you want to mirror). Speak openly and honestly to this person just to keep you on the right path. It is never okay to intentionally FALL into temptation and think "Oh! I'll just pray and it will be fine." While this is correct that God will accept your earnest prayer, do not take the grace of God for granted. Rom 6:1-"So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving? I should hope not! If we’ve left the country where sin is sovereign, how can we still live in our old house there?"  I know sometimes we fall. It gets hard and unbearable, but we have to wage war against sin. The best way to kill a habit is to starve it. Anything you feed grows, and without a doubt if you starve it, it dies. Like a flower, you water it (feed it) to keep it alive and thriving and getting bigger. The day you forget to water a flower, you may not see it but it begins to dry up. Few days later it begins to die and wither. 

The same applies to us. Replace that thought. Pray that you develop a HATRED for that temptation (Prayer works wonders. I promise you!) nothing is too tiny or insignificant to pray about. He cares about the tiny details about you. He even knows the number of hairs on your head. Besides God, we are in total control of our daily lives and the decisions we make to bring us where we are. Do not flirt with sin. We can't afford it. Make promises to God that if you fall into a specific temptation, you will pay back (not like you really can but hey! do what you gotta do). I was on a missions trip in my senior year of college to Puerto Rico and a friend of mine misplaced something. As she was tirelessly looking for it, she said "God if I find it, I will give you 25 press-ups". Later that evening, she found it but forgot about her promise. As we were just talking and in conversation she got on the floor like out of the blue (to me) and started her press-ups. I was wondering what in the world is wrong with this girl??? and then she told me of her promise to God. It's the little things like honoring your word that will help you.

This world is so dark and sin is applauded. As ladies after God's heart, we can't live like everybody else. We can't say "yes" when we should say "no". This christian walk is never the easiest, but with God on your side, nothing is impossible. You may say but it's so hard and I just can't fight it. Who said so? You are the only person putting a limitation on yourself. 1 Cor 10:13 "No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he’ll never let you be pushed past your limit; he’ll always be there to help you come through it."

It probably won't be the wisest decision to hang around people that enable or permit your weakness because you will find yourself falling, and falling and falling all the time. We all have challenges that we have to deny ourselves of. Die (deny your flesh) daily. When you make God Numero Uno and you no longer live for yourself, the choice to stay away will be more important. It is easy to fail yourself, but to fail God is on another level. Take practical steps to curb evil. Be proactive and controlling about where, when and what you are accepting and allowing yourself to engage in. This life is not our own. We are just caretakers. Get a partner that calls you out in love. The devil is real yo! He does NOT play. The moment we have our guards down, he flys or dives right into our minds to cripple us mentally before it manifests in the physical. Don't be that girl that stays playing with her life time in, time out.

James 4:7 "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."

We can do it. I believe in you. I'll hold your hand, but hold mine.

You are strong. You are beauty-FULL. Believe NOTHING else.

Sunday, 27 January 2013

iVow Pledge.

((Stick this in your home or write it down, and say it--repeatedly--every day to remind yourself of your commitment to God.))

I vow to be a woman after God's heart.

I will conduct my activities in a way that will reflect the God in me.

I vow to honor God with my words, actions and thoughts.

I will move and let the Spirit of God guide me.

I'm healthy in my mind, body and spirit.

My mind is free of toxic thoughts.

My body is God's holy temple. Therefore, it doesn't engage in illegal pleasure.

My spirit is desperate for God.

I vow to stay committed to living an extraordinary life.

My lips will only speak positive and uplifting words. My mouth will not be used to bash, demean or bring down. My words are like honey-Sweet and healing.

I will be a blessing to those I encounter; especially my sisters.

I will think only of what is pure, lovely and of good report.

I was bought with a price. Therefore, I am valuable.

When issues arise, I will practice self-control and be reminded of the God I serve.

I will walk in my greatness and remain the original version of myself.

I am a unique and limited edition of God's best ladies.

Yes! I am led by God. 

Feed your spirit's daily. Go broken and as you are to God and He will fix you. Start the new week right and let go of old habits that give God NO glory. Don't play with your life we are on borrowed time. It's not always easy but hold my hand (in prayer) and i'll hold yours. Let's GO!! I love you and want God's BEST for you. I believe in you. 

Friday, 11 January 2013

Yes! I Care What You Think...

Happy New Year my beautiful and powerful ladies who have nothing short of a beautiful mind, holy bodies and renewed spirits. We made it into 2013!!! Can you believe it? Guess what? Some people died a day before the new year and even after. Do not take the grace and mercy of God for granted. We can NEVER ever deserve or earn His love. Just do your best to manage and be productive with each day we have.

First and foremost how are my royal ladies doing? Is your mind right? spirit tight and ready to continue living in greatness this year? I'm sure you are. So let's get down to business today. Have you ever heard people that live their lives on the daily talking about "I don't care what anybody thinks of me" "I am answerable to nobody" and other statements that reflect a careless living and mindset? Well, I CARE WHAT EVERY SINGLE BREATHING AND MOVING PERSON THINKS OF ME.  Let me tell you why: I care because I have a name and a reputation to uphold. "It is better to be respected than to be rich. A good name is worth more than silver or gold."-Prov 22:1 I cannot (and you should not) just have a life that is after material things and external adornment (worrying and getting antsy when your hair and nails and lashes and everything else aren't "beat" the way you want it) when your insides and your internal is full of spiritual cobwebs and emptiness. Work on cultivating a good name that is respected and admired. Let people sense a magnetic connection to you and this God you claim to know.

Secondly, My life is NOT my own. Therefore what I do with it and how others around me see what I do with it is IMPORTANT. "However, I consider my life worth nothing to me, if only I may finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me--the task of testifying to the gospel of God's grace."-Acts 20:24 We are working with borrowed time and this life we are living does not belong to us. Favor, so should we not only care what the owner of our lives think? well, yes but have you also ever been in trouble or about to be in trouble when you had a witness that could defend and testify on your behalf saying they watched you and you didn't do or say what you were being accused of? Isn't it a good feeling to have that back-up? Let's even forget about the backup. What about those that are unbelievers and they keep watching how you live? Don't you want them to be able to emulate the life you are living? Yes, we should care what people think.
Thirdly, I am the LIGHT of the world. From what I know, light is meant to illuminate and dispel darkness or gloominess. Whenever you have a dead bulb what happens to it? It is thrown away. God placed us on this temporary earth to be a bright light that shines in a dark world. When we get to heaven, best believe we will stand before this God and our light and brightness on earth will be tested. If we fall short guess what? We will be thrown away into the lake that burns with fire and brimstone AKA HELL (God forbid!!!) There is a reason why you should not be seen in the wrong places, and there is a reason why we can't do what every Tom, Rick & Harry does because our mission on earth is different. But Favor if I don't go "have fun" with them, I will be thought of as the bore and party pooper. I'm so sorry to hear that and I feel your pain but imagine going to a club friday night, saturday morning you wake up and repent to God for being where you had no business being; then you go out to witness and who do you see? the guy that was rubbing and touching all up on you the night before and watched you getting wasted to stupidity. Did you picture that? Tell me how under the anointing you will feel IF you even go to say anything at all. See? we can't go with everybody. We were born to lead and others follow.

Now don't get me wrong. Don't care what people think with regards to "she's so fat, who does she think she is? Ughh! she's so dumb I just can't stand her" and all those sort of things. In that case, only care about who God has said you are. If you are doing the right thing and living the life God gave you, don't care about the critics and the mockers and them. However, if you are living like the world and not giving a flying plate about people's opinion about you, then this is for you. Let's start the year right and shine bright like a ... You may say but I'm not perfect. No one is perfect but every single day we have to kill our sinful nature and consciously live lives worthy of God.

LAST REASON FOR NOW: "You are the only BIBLE some one will ever get to read."-Selah (pause, and think of that).

NB: I am working on an iVow pledge and affirmation for all my beautiful ladies. Just a fun reminder and daily confession that will be good to print and paste in our homes or rooms. You know the power of repetition and the more you say something the more it is committed to memory and our beliefs will shift to that thought. So it will be up soon. OUT with the negative thoughts and IN with the new.

I LOVE YOU my beautiful ladies and I BELIEVE IN YOU.
You are beauty-full. Believe NOTHING else.

Favor Omakwu