Tuesday, 26 February 2013

The Battle of Time & Contentment.

There is something in the air. Everyone except you is getting engaged, getting married, getting a promotion, getting a job, getting success and open doors, getting, Getting, & GETTING more from every angle of the world. You look at shows on TV and people in Hollywood that are living worse lives than you, but their flourishing. Let me tell you, they have major and deep rooted issues like us, and even worse, but the media will not show you that part. It is not all roses in Hollywood, in fact, it is a lot of thorns and weeds. Then you look back at yourself, and it doesn't even make sense as to why you are still where you are. "Lord, what really is going on? have You forgotten about me? Do you hear the prayers I have prayed or are they on a waiting list?" Sometimes we even get mad at God and try to work out what we want for ourselves. After all, God seems to be dealing with the other bagillion people on the earth. (You can not speed up God's time. You may make something temporarily pleasure and pacify your discontentment or selfishness, but in the long run it will self-destruct.)
As we all know the Bible verses that talk about time: Ecc 3

There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:

A right time for birth and another for death,
A right time to plant and another to reap,
A right time to kill and another to heal,
A right time to destroy and another to construct,
A right time to cry and another to laugh,
A right time to lament and another to cheer,
A right time to make love and another to abstain,
A right time to embrace and another to part,
A right time to search and another to count your losses,
A right time to hold on and another to let go,
A right time to rip out and another to mend,
A right time to shut up and another to speak up,
A right time to love and another to hate,
A right time to wage war and another to make peace.

If you look deeper, you will understand that God understands all your cares and He knows what is best for you. Just because it hasn't happened does not mean He has forgotten or he does not listen. Maybe He is trying to tell you it is NOT your time yet. You want a man, but you spend time discussing with your girlfriends how "all men are dogs" (best believe all the dogs and their cousins will holla at you). You NEED a man, but you do not have one submissive vein in you. You will prefer to have your arm cut off before you submit. You have praaaaaayyyyyyed, and fasssssssstttttteeeedddd (in fact you have lost so much weight from the fast) but the man does not even look at you twice. God is not stupid! There is a reason why your "prayers" are not there yet. It does not even take a prophet to look into your matter. Common sense will let you know. If God in all His omniscience knows that you are not prepared to handle something, or you do not have the ability to manage something, rest your understanding on that fact that IT WILL NOT COME.

Do not place your measuring stick close to your friends or people around you. You do not know the level they are in, or you do not know what they did to get to where they are. They may look happy on the outside but who knows if God told them to close that "open" door they are experiencing, and they disobeyed? Your race is different. The only place you should look is up to the Heavens!

"If they obey and serve him, they shall spend their days in prosperity, and their years in pleasures."-Job 36:11

"Let your character be free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, "I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you,"- Hebrews 13:5

"Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded."-James 4:8

Instead of focusing on what you do not have and looking for a way to attract it, spend time developing yourself. Read books to develop you, read the Bible to make you the ideal person with the proper character for whatever area it is you feel incomplete in. When you spend time doing God's business, He will look into your business. Don't sit and let satan pour lies into your head or remind you of your past being the reason why you are where you are. Worrying has no gain. It will not change the situation. It will only frustrate and depress you. God has a better plan. Do your part by spending time in the Word, understanding the heart beat of God and He will do His part. We all face discontentment every now and then (me included). However, we cannot let the thoughts overwhelm or control our outlook on life.

Some people even have all the physical things that define "happiness" but they are experiencing internal hunger. Something is just not there. This is a vacancy for God. Think of a car without fuel. You may have the baddest rims and all the car accessory it takes to externally beautify your car but if there is no fuel or gas in it, it will take you nowhere. Same way if you have all the external things, but have no fuel in your Jesus tank you will experience all kinds and stages of emptiness and discontentment. Trust me. I won't lie to you. After a while, everything you have becomes boring and old. Pray for God to deal with that area. Let me just say, we will NEVER have all we want (I can imagine your faces, and screaming "I must get those new shoes first"- REST!), but the success in this fact is that with contentment, it will not be an issue for us. Let us vow to be satisfied and content with what we have. Ask for contentment with your portion. 

Random: Have you ever realized that people in villages are SUPER content? They don't have quarter of what we have but they burst with internal joy. Then we that need more space to store all our possessions are angry at the world. We are such greedy beings! SMH.

Learn to say a prayer to the tune of:
"Lord I thank You for my portion. I am grateful for ALL I am blessed to have. You are a good God, and You do all things well. I have food to eat, a wonderful place to sleep, the air I breathe is free, I am not on life support. I have clothes on my back and shoes on my feet. In fact, I can even wear fresh different clothes this whole week without repeating any. My problems are someone else's prayer. Wow! Lord, I thank You for holding time in Your hands, You know my desires, if they are not Your will, I am content. If I do not get anything else, I thank you for the blessings I already have. I am content, and all my needs are met. I praise and worship You. Thank you Lord, In Jesus name! Amen.

Reminder: Don't forget to repeat your iVow pledges.
I love you. You are beauty-FULL. I believe in you. Go and be great.

Favor Omakwu.

Saturday, 9 February 2013

Fighting Temptations.

"Eat those doughnuts, it's so little it can't do much damage"
"Click on that link, see what it really is"
"Just one puff. You won't get hooked with just one puff"
"Tell people about how she sleeps around. After all, she spreads stuff about you"

......and so on...... are every day demons we fight with.Temptation goes back to the beginning of time when the serpent tempted Eve to eat of the tree that God commanded her not to. As we all know, she and Adam were punished. Each and every day we roll on the bed before we get up it is up to us to control how our day goes and not allow our days to control us. This world is SO evil that evil just is more enticing and we get that moment of pleasure after acting a fool in the real sense. Have you ever realized that when someone puts a limitation on you doing something that is the moment the forbidden thing is all the more appealing? Human nature which is sinful nature is responsible for that. Are we abnormal or "bad" for being tempted? absolutely not. Even Jesus was tempted by the devil. This is not a pass for bad behavior. Guard your heart. 

I recently read "The Compound Effect" by Darren Hardy ((Amazing book.)) It talks about how everyday little "insignificant" decisions have accumulated results or consequences-good or bad. Don't think that one decision to buy that KFC bucket of chicken once in a month won't add a couple inches around your waistline in few months/years. You are not a trash can. Your body is a temple and a sacred place. The fastest channel to our mind is through our eyes and ears. Our senses are so susceptible to a lot of things that we are sometimes unconsciously nursing godless thoughts and trying to down play their intensities. It is just one night of getting high, and everyone does it regularly. Are you everyone? Will you stand with everyone when God is questioning you? Is it worth your eternity? These are real questions. Matt 26:41 "Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

We are all very familiar with our demons. So, it is wisest that we create boundaries. Yes! discover the beauty of boundaries. Identify what triggers or sets off your weakness and make a conscious and intentional decision to stay away from it. If you need to talk it out, find a person you trust with your life. This should be a person that will prayerfully help or guide you (and also someone's life you want to mirror). Speak openly and honestly to this person just to keep you on the right path. It is never okay to intentionally FALL into temptation and think "Oh! I'll just pray and it will be fine." While this is correct that God will accept your earnest prayer, do not take the grace of God for granted. Rom 6:1-"So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving? I should hope not! If we’ve left the country where sin is sovereign, how can we still live in our old house there?"  I know sometimes we fall. It gets hard and unbearable, but we have to wage war against sin. The best way to kill a habit is to starve it. Anything you feed grows, and without a doubt if you starve it, it dies. Like a flower, you water it (feed it) to keep it alive and thriving and getting bigger. The day you forget to water a flower, you may not see it but it begins to dry up. Few days later it begins to die and wither. 

The same applies to us. Replace that thought. Pray that you develop a HATRED for that temptation (Prayer works wonders. I promise you!) nothing is too tiny or insignificant to pray about. He cares about the tiny details about you. He even knows the number of hairs on your head. Besides God, we are in total control of our daily lives and the decisions we make to bring us where we are. Do not flirt with sin. We can't afford it. Make promises to God that if you fall into a specific temptation, you will pay back (not like you really can but hey! do what you gotta do). I was on a missions trip in my senior year of college to Puerto Rico and a friend of mine misplaced something. As she was tirelessly looking for it, she said "God if I find it, I will give you 25 press-ups". Later that evening, she found it but forgot about her promise. As we were just talking and in conversation she got on the floor like out of the blue (to me) and started her press-ups. I was wondering what in the world is wrong with this girl??? and then she told me of her promise to God. It's the little things like honoring your word that will help you.

This world is so dark and sin is applauded. As ladies after God's heart, we can't live like everybody else. We can't say "yes" when we should say "no". This christian walk is never the easiest, but with God on your side, nothing is impossible. You may say but it's so hard and I just can't fight it. Who said so? You are the only person putting a limitation on yourself. 1 Cor 10:13 "No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he’ll never let you be pushed past your limit; he’ll always be there to help you come through it."

It probably won't be the wisest decision to hang around people that enable or permit your weakness because you will find yourself falling, and falling and falling all the time. We all have challenges that we have to deny ourselves of. Die (deny your flesh) daily. When you make God Numero Uno and you no longer live for yourself, the choice to stay away will be more important. It is easy to fail yourself, but to fail God is on another level. Take practical steps to curb evil. Be proactive and controlling about where, when and what you are accepting and allowing yourself to engage in. This life is not our own. We are just caretakers. Get a partner that calls you out in love. The devil is real yo! He does NOT play. The moment we have our guards down, he flys or dives right into our minds to cripple us mentally before it manifests in the physical. Don't be that girl that stays playing with her life time in, time out.

James 4:7 "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."

We can do it. I believe in you. I'll hold your hand, but hold mine.

You are strong. You are beauty-FULL. Believe NOTHING else.