Sunday, 17 March 2013

Who's in Yo Corner?

Let's get down to it. Who's in your corner? Does this person add value to your life or do they exist as a source of depression to your life that encounters with them leave you stressed and exhausted? Give yourself a people evaluation. I strongly believe in loving people, but not every Tom, Rick and Harry should be in your life for that reason. I'm talking about your close circle. So what if you were close in college or high school? Your lives may have changed and you are at different levels and stages. The bond you shared no more exists...nor should it. I am all for personal development and growth. I am NOT interested in having people around me that only want to gossip about every pair of legs that walk the surface of the earth. Sooner or later, you find yourself having "basket-mouth" issues. You are no more a safe place for people to come to. Does your "BEST" friend exist to be your friday night club crawl buddy? Your lets-see-who-gets-drunk-first girl? I'm sorry to announce but that sounds like your WORST friend. You know that picture that says "a good friend will bail you out of jail, but your best friend will be sitting right next to you saying 'we screwed up'"? I absolutely beg to differ. Your best friend will smack you across the head for being so silly. I just believe one friend must be able to lead the other right. I love Jesus with EVERY cell in my being, and my life is not a joke. A lot of people have not reached this point in their life and it makes no sense to them why you are the way you are. They will try to bring out the dead and buried part of your life, and if you give them access you will be back to square one. 

People should QUALIFY to be in your life. No, I don't mean they have to carry the same designer purses, have all the inches of human hair and all the physical things that mean nothing. I'm talking about they should mentally stimulate you and you should see something in them you aspire to attain. Yes, you should have fun with whoever is in your life. However, your definition of fun and their fun must agree. It should not be a task on planning a fun night that all parties will enjoy. Don't just hang out with everyone because everyone else is hanging out. Choose your crowds and where you should be seen. I'm not sure about everyone else but I do not feel comfortable in club settings at all. It bothers my spirit so much, but it boils down to 2 Cor. 6:14 Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? Does Christ go strolling with the Devil?" I'm not going to front and come off all holy and blameless, many times I have inconvenienced and hurt God by going with the crowd just because I did not want to be the "party pooper" and the "kill-joy", but I'm at a (liberating and free) place in my life that I am very fine with being odd and "boring" if that means I'm not living in sin. If Jesus is happy with your actions, forget about everyone else. 

We can all quote the famous 1 Cor. 15:33 "But don’t fool yourselves. Don’t let yourselves be poisoned by this anti-resurrection loose talk. “Bad company ruins good manners.” How often does this verse influence your life? What are your personal boundaries that nothing on earth will allow you cross them? Discover the beauty of boundaries. Never EVER just "go with the flow." Every single action or reaction has a compounding effect over time. One decision will move you closer to your mark or away from it. There are no grey areas. What kind of conversations do you have? Col. 3:18 CLEARLY says: "But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth." These are not my words. Jesus said them and whoever considers themselves Christians should be submitted to His words. Cursing and using all the F-grenades and what not are not only unlady-like but just so crass and dirty. The bible also clearly says "From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so."-James 3:10. 

Anyone that puts you in a position that contradicts what you believe in should be deleted from your life. Love them and wish them well but you can't hang out like you used to. Things have changed and so have you. We are on a mission to get to Heaven, and nothing and absolutely NO ONE should delay your journey. Drop them LIKE IT'S HOT. Bad friends are easy to find. Good friends are rare. Before you find that friend, be that friend. Push your friends to Christ, and let them push you to Him too. You may have to go through a season of being alone, but it won't last forever. You will experience freedom and completeness once you have the right people around you. Guilt may come, but shut that mug down! You are doing the right thing by doing what's best for you. It will hurt, but you will heal. Run to God, and He will run to you. 

I mean well. I am not perfect, but each day we should strive to attain excellence in all things. I believe in You. Hold my hands, and I'll hold yours. God is EVERYthing. Heaven is the destination (we are on transit on earth). Create what lasts. I love you. You are beauty-FULL. 

Favor O. 


  1. Profoundddddd write up. You couldn't have said it any better. This is an amazing piece. Keep writing dear

    "Why do good girls end up dating bad guys?”

  2. Thank you huntly for checking and the encouragement. I appreciate it. I'll check your post too.

  3. This is so inspiring... God bless u for reaching out...:)

  4. This is so inspiring.... God bless u for reaching out...:)

  5. This has really helped. Tnx for the great article.