Friday, 22 November 2013

Solitary Confinement

There you are sitting in a room full of people in a cacophony of questions in your mind. You are drowning in the midst of people but you are in deep loneliness and isolation in your mind. You are confidently convinced that no one understands your pain. Your issues have isolated you. Your thoughts have isolated you. The voices in your head have drowned out the voices of the world, and you are ALL alone. So what if they left you? They weren't meant to stay anyway. So what if they talked about you? At least you are on someone's mind. You ask all these questions. Why did all this happen to you, and if God loves you so much how dare He allow such and such befall you. You are mad at Him, and have refused to let anyone speak life to your weakness. Voices start to whisper destructive thoughts into your heart; like “Maybe the world would be a better place without you if you take matters into your own hands.” Listen! The devil understands that the mind is a powerful tool that controls your entire life. Once he can plant some thoughts into your mind, he basically has you under his chokehold. That’s the last place you want to be in. Be careful!

Why do we wear struggles and pain like a crown? and why does it become a badge of honor when you can tell someone “woe is me. You just don’t understand what I’m going through?” What do you do when you feel like rejection and solitude is punishment and no longer protection? Can God trust you enough to believe that even when you feel like He doesn’t have your back that you will hold on to Him still? When you’re all you’ve got, and life has squeezed your very essence, will praise or poison come out of your mouth? What happened to the church being a place where one can borrow strength and faith and hope and love? Just because someone’s demons don’t look like yours doesn’t give you a pass to judge or condemn them. How do we intend to save people when we walk with a pep in our step like we have never known defeat? Forgetting that if it wasn’t for God’s grace our story would have been different?

What if you understood that your pain and your isolation was all for a reason? How would you react to your struggles now if you believed that they were all set in place for your development. After all, God chastises those He loves right? Whitney Houston said “I was not built to break.” Life may bend you but never let it break you. Your testimony was not given to you to shelf or file. It was given for the deliverance of others. God didn’t allow you pass through that test for no reason. He has better things to do other than frustrate you. I promise! Never let life cajole you into believing that you are all alone. T.D Jakes said “Rejection is not a bad thing because God always isolates greatness.” Don’t let the world make you think they have it all together. People just aren’t brave enough to let the world see that they are hurting. I can confirm that your story may be different from mine, but we all feel pain now and then. Make use of your isolation for preparation to succeed. Let it mould you into the best you. It is with this understanding that you will find the lesson in the trial. It will all make sense when you let yourself know it won’t last always, and God is trying to show you something to show other people.

“Is anyone crying for help? God is listening,
ready to rescue you. If your heart is broken, you’ll find God right there;
if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath. Disciples so often get into trouble; still, God is there every time. He’s your bodyguard, shielding every bone;
not even a finger gets broken.” Ps 34:17-20 (MSG)

The harder you fight for control over your life, the longer your mind torments you. The more you see that you were made for God is the moment you gain liberty, or else until he has control over you He will break you over and over and over again (If you don’t believe try it out and let me know what happens.) Stop running away from God. Run to Him. This torment of your mind is only God tugging at your heart trying to get your attention. He is JEALOUS for you. Drop your little cares at His feet, and leave them there. He made you and knows what to do with them. Someone said you won’t be anything? By the time God is done with you they will see that through Him, you are everything. Wipe your tears, and pick your face off the ground and trust the plans God has for you. He’s got your back. When you feel like no one understands, He understands, and more than anything He wants you to communicate with Him.

I love you and mean well. I believe in all that you are, and all you have potential to be. You are beauty-FULL. Believe nothing else.

Favor O.

Thursday, 14 November 2013

Not One Of Them.

Growing up, my mother constantly had pep talks with my siblings and I. Yes! She took (and still takes) parenting extremely serious. One of the talks I recall was she trying to help me see that I couldn’t behave like anyone else. I didn’t understand why I was restricted from “acting a fool” (if you may) with my friends. I used to struggle internally at a point because I just wanted to be a normal kid. After all, I didn’t ask to be born a PK (Pastor’s Kid) right? WRONG. I now see that more than any titles or roles, she was doing this for me. It is my gain that I stayed on the straight and narrow. Not hers. Thank God for growth. Looking back, I am immensely grateful for all those talks that have formed and shaped my reality. I went through high school, and university with my mother’s voice ringing in my heart. Did I have times when I almost forgot I wasn’t one of them? Yes! But the older I got, and allowed maturity to guide me, those words intensified and thankfully began to make sense. Today, when temptation rises, I am reminded that I am not like them. 1. Cor. 6:20 “you were bought at a high price...” 

When negative, corrupt or perverse thoughts arise in your mind, remember: You are NOT one of them. 

When someone gives you a reason to curse them out, remember: You are NOT one of them. 

When you are tired of “being a Christian” (whatever that means), remember: You are NOT one of them. 

Who are “they”? 

They are those that have decided they would rather live their lives outside God’s will. It is too heavy a price for them to serve God, and so they are their own gods. They run freely through life without a care in the world forgetting that: “there is a way that seems right to a man, but the end is destruction” Prov. 14:12 They don’t believe God wants their whole hearts, but think it’s an a la carte menu that they can choose when and when not to obey Him. They are the unbelievers who have chosen their way above God’s. They are the blind that have not yet seen the fullness of God’s power. Their lives have reflected they can do life by themselves; with or without His help.

Ladies, we have seen the light, and have chosen to walk boldly in it. You are one of God’s limited edition. Don’t let anything dull your shine. Let your character in front and behind doors impress Christ. Let your speech be laced with grace. Allow your actions and reflections to be led by God all the time. Christianity is not a part-time job. There’s also no leave. You’re in it till the very end. You are Christ’s royalty. Let those around you notice a change in you and even wonder what God this is that has turned your life around.

When ANYTHING tries to interrupt your flow of Christ, whisper to yourself: I am NOT one of them.
I believe in you. I trust you. I mean well. I have your back. You can do it. Remain Beauty-FULL. Have a fabulous weekend and week ahead.


Favor O.