Wednesday, 12 November 2014

Loving the world.

"Don’t love the world’s ways. Don’t love the world’s goods. Love of the world squeezes out love for the Father. Practically everything that goes on in the world—wanting your own way, wanting everything for yourself, wanting to appear important—has nothing to do with the Father. It just isolates you from him. The world and all its wanting, wanting, wanting is on the way out—but whoever does what God wants is set for eternity."
-1 John 2:15-17.

"But it's not wrong to spend on yourself!" "Never apologise for how you treat yourself!" "You deserve the best life to offer!" "You were made for this luxurious life!" "If you don't spend on yourself, WHO WILL?!" Yes! we are all guilty of waving one of these flags to satisfy our selfish reasons for loving the things of the world. Even I have in one time or another persuaded myself to splurge on things I really didn't need. There is a command from God saying "DO NOT love the world's goods..." Now don't get me wrong. It's not a sin to rock the finer things here and there, but it's a thin line between having yourself wrapped up in them and them remaining subordinate to you, and under your control. 

We get so absorbed in the labels, and the price tags (and some will even settle for the knock offs just to keep up appearances), but to what end? Why isn't it okay to be yourself anymore? Who gave us a finish line that we have to sprint up to beside the world? Last week, my heart was broken in a million pieces when I listened to missionaries and widows testify about how N5,000 a month (about $30) made a difference in their lives. They were over the moon excited about having their basic needs taken care of. Then on the other side of the grass, there we find our category. The category that spends without thinking. The category that screams NO NEW FRIENDS and YOU CAN'T SIT WITH US (let me find out: who are "we?" and why can't I sit with you? Oh! Okay...)  as if it's something to be proud of. The category that gives the spare change at offering and can't be bothered to tithe--after all, these pastors are going to spend our money. The category that loves God with our lips but there really is no evidence in the lives around us. 

When was the last time you bought a homeless person lunch? When was the last time you even took a friend out and paid the bill? when was the last time your neighbour mattered more than yourself? When last did you care for those that can do nothing for you? When last did you practice pure and undefiled religion? "Anyone who sets himself up as “religious” by talking a good game is self-deceived. This kind of religion is hot air and only hot air. Real religion, the kind that passes muster before God the Father, is this: Reach out to the homeless and loveless in their plight, and guard against corruption from the godless world." James 1:27. 

I'm not here to point fingers at all. In fact, this is a note to self. This is an internal dialogue that I am sharing.  We must become uncomfortable with living a certain kind of life. It shouldn't be "normal" to waste money unnecessarily. We must think about cost-effective options of doing things. We must be good custodians of the little God has given us. We ought to have simple hearts that are just fine having what we are given in the moment, and trusting that when God blesses us, the glory will go back to Him. We must no longer lose sleep over trying to appear important before this world. 

This is a call to have eyes that are open to those around us. That we may become sensitive to the needs around us, and start to lose sleep over the plight of those in lesser privileged positions. This is a call to silence our selfishness and feeling that we're "all-that." This is a charge to really put our money where our mouths are. To be like Christ. To be people-persons. To be #TeamNewFriends and #YouCanSitWithUs. That we will indeed be leaders of positive causes, and not followers of ignorance. Will we love the world or love God? We can't love both equally so where's your allegiance? Hold my hand, and I'll hold yours. There's more to life than your world. It's not all about you. I promise! 

You are beauty-FULL! Believe nothing else. I love you & only mean well. 

Favor O.

Sunday, 2 November 2014


There's something truly beautiful about pure and genuine worship. Those moments you allow yourself to beckme vulnerable and can literally feel God's presence in the room without a doubt. It's those times when you're just before God not asking Him for anything or settling "issues" with Him for not doing so & so, but just being in awe of Who He is. It's in those moments we are operating in our highest calling.

At my core, I am no longer (because there was a time i could care) impressed by money, cars, clothes, the latest designer anything, status or recognition. Those were days of emptiness and living for audiences who could care less about you and also for the applause. It's such a self absorbed life where God gets no glory, and we act as if we provided for ourselves and deserve to be anything.

I find myself wanting to spend time with God and worship music (or just singing to Him for who He is) more than I desire to be with friends--chatting about stuff that really make no sense or add up to much, really. To get to this place, you must understand and truly believe that we are solely dependent on God for EVERYTHING. When you know you must depend on Him alone, you stop looking at your clock, keeping track of time so you can do "more important" things. You understand with deep conviction that there is really nothing you can do that will weigh more than your time with Him.

Morality has truly been on the decline and somehow in our minds, it's justifiable and reason enough according to some standard--or the lack thereof--I refuse to be familar with. We comfortably turn down church invites because a business meeting came up. We have allowed our hearts become hardened to the beggars on the streets because we FEEL they should go and find a job instead (forgetting how God had mercy on us and placed us where we are. Don't let Him regret it), or simply because "church just isn't for us!" Oh! I beg your pardon?! Who informed us we have control over the life God gave us to worship Him with? He is a jealous God and won't sit back and fold His arms while you put Him in second place.

Lately, between church, casual conversations and articles I stumble upon, I keep being reminded to lay up treasures in Heaven (and not this temporary earth).

Matthew 6:19-21, 24

" Don’t hoard treasure down here where it gets eaten by moths and corroded by rust or—worse!—stolen by burglars. Stockpile treasure in heaven, where it’s safe from moth and rust and burglars. It’s obvious, isn’t it? The place where your treasure is, is the place you will most want to be, and end up being.
 You can’t worship two gods at once. Loving one god, you’ll end up hating the other. Adoration of one feeds contempt for the other. You can’t worship God and Money both."

The way this world is going, anyone can drop dead any second and the wealth we amass on earth will remain. But, the treasures we accumulate in Heaven will eternally be with us. I will rather not "have it all" on earth,  and have all I ever wished and more in Heaven. Spending time with God is the best part of any day. It just sets the tone for how your day goes. Your heart starts to look like God's and people naturally will gravitate to you.

We must do better as people. We were put here on earth for God's pleasure. Let's live a life that God smiles down in delight when He looks at us. Anybody not worshipping God does not deserve to be alive. You exist solely on God's mercy. Don't stretch it!

This is a life-check, and a heart-check to refocus us, and bring us back to the heart of God. Allow your heart to become human again. Let's become sensitive to the things of God. Put your logic aside and put on FAITH. It's cooler.

I believe in you. Together we will worship God with purity. I trust you. You are beauty-FULL! Believe nothing else.
I love you.

Favor O.

Saturday, 11 October 2014

It's Okay to Not Feel Okay...

It's okay to not feel okay... long as you don't allow misery to become your home.

It's the 10th month of the year. Just two more months left and 2014 will be over. One of two things will begin to happen at this point. Either you feel a sense of accomplishment and a go-getter attitude to successfully check off the remaining items in your to-do list for the year, or an overwhelming feeling of discouragement and failure sweeps you off your feet. While it's my prayer the former is your case, the latter is the reality to most people.

You had so many goals and somehow and someway beyond your control, things just didn't pan out the way you wanted them to. Maybe it's not even accomplishments for the year. For some, so many darts have been thrown at you this year and you are running on reserve energy just to get through to next year. Loss of a loved one? Loss of a job? Feeling alone and drained by all ramifications of life? Just plain old depression and not even knowing why you're down? I can imagine, and I've been there.

Something about this low feeling makes you feel like you're not "Christian enough" and like you are shaming God for allowing this feeling take over. After all, Christians are supposed to have 365 happy days right? Wrong. Even the Bible assures us that
"I've told you all this so that trusting me, you will be unshakable and assured, deeply at peace. In this godless world you will continue to experience difficulties. But take heart! I've conquered the world." John 16:33

I'm not here to tell you to wear your superhuman cape and fly across the walls and buildings of your hurt, as if being Christian makes you immune to pain. I'm here to encourage you to go through your feelings. Understand where they are coming from and sieve through them thoroughly. While this elevates your self awareness, it also helps in allowing you go through the feelings and brings you closer to the end of your tunnel. Have you ever realised that ignoring or suppressing your feelings never really works in practical life application? It's just swept under the carpet and sooner or later in weighs you down and just knows how to take you out. So go through them. Don't stay stuck in them.

Cry it all out. Think it through. Talk about it with someone with a good head on their shoulders. Write it in your journal. Physically burn it on a sheet of paper. Do whatever (morally speaking) it takes to pull yourself through it but refuse to allow the devil move in. Above all else, PRAY about it. God knows best. Don't stay down and watch the devil. Because trust me, he will sneak in with just a toothbrush and before you know if he will move into your house and move your stuff to the garage, in your own house. So be extra careful. Cast your cares on God. He will never leave you. He just wants you to stretch out to Him and He'll pull you out. Say goodbye to the devil and go ahead to live your fabulous life.

PS: There is nothing worse than being down, and when someone is willing to help you claim "you're okay", or you're sick and someone asks what's wrong and you say "you're strong". While it's good to prophecy and speak by faith, don't lose your ground in reality. Call a thing a thing, and it loses it's power and hold on you because someone will lift you out of it when the problem is identified.

When you're done getting yourself back now go ahead and find your SuperWoman cape and strut around feeling bossy! After all, you just conquered some demons.

I love you.
Favor O.

Tuesday, 29 July 2014

||Trust Issues||

Let’s be real. Trust takes time. It’s not something you wake up and decide to do (well it shouldn’t be). We keep pushing the limits to see how far we can go without getting burned. It’s no wonder why long term relationships like marriage tend to thrive. There has been a build-up of trust along the way. Why does it hurt so much when trust is broken? Maybe it’s because of the time it took to build it.

Vulnerability is not weakness, but strength. We are so scared of being vulnerable and we find it risky even, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. When we raise high walls and fences around us, it doesn’t take long before bitterness, insecurities and fear creep in. Then we start to believe we must be in control of everything, we have to tell our hearts what to do. We start snooping around peoples phones, stalking their social media, and just being Worrying Wendy.

Why do we build walls?

Fear of the unknown.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of being taken advantage of.
Fear of commitment.
Fear of parents past.

“Have not I commanded you? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be you dismayed: for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”
  Joshua 1:9

While these fears are not abnormal, and in fact in-built into us if we don’t actively fight them, we can’t live that way. Trust issues become a problem when there is no evidence of mistrust, but we accuse them falsely, or in order to make them “confess.” If you ask me that’s insecurity/jealousy, and jealousy is most times anxiety rooted in low self-esteem. If you’re in a relationship, you remember how hard you desired a spouse. It was the only song you sang, and now you employ your fears and they begin to push your boy/girlfriend away...into the arms of someone else. Don’t let that be your story.

We create every excuse possible to why we can’t date such a guy. After all, he’s on a level we have yet to attain. How dare we love so and so. He surely will never love us back. Who am I to go for that interview? I know I won’t make it. We begin to turn to mediums and fortune-liars to see into our future and give us some sort of control over our lives.

Lies. The devil whispers lies to us until we start believing and confessing them.

So someone violated your trust. Then what? Do you really believe the world stops because of that major life-changing event? NO. Life in itself is a risk, and if you must err, err on the side of love. Choose to stay open and willing to trust. When there are no walls, our experiences are limitless. However, use your instinct to guide you. Ofcourse, people should qualify to be in your lives. Just be weary of punishing the innocent over the sins of the past. 

Dare to be vulnerable. Allow your heart to enjoy life and love without bounds. Believe that someone out there loves your whole heart and will jealously protect it from the negatives and short-comings of this world.

“Once we look the big, bad Fears in the eye and see they are simply trying to protect us from being hurt, we can simply say, “Thanks, but no thanks. I’d like to see what’s beyond that wall.”

You can rise from anything that has held you bound. You don’t have to stay captive to the deception of the devil. Your past should no longer define you, but prepare you for the future. Believe that you have all the tools necessary to living your best life yet in freedom and possibility and watch God work. I love you. I believe in you. I trust you. You are beauty-FULL. I mean well.

Have an awesome week,

Favor O.

Tuesday, 22 July 2014

God Consciousness.

We live in the age where religion is no longer popular. It’s not even cool if I’m being honest. It’s so “boring” and “old-school.” It is what our parents do, not for we the cool kids. We only remember God when we desperately need something, and we’ve tried everywhere else and nothing came through so God is the last resort. As a Christian, God should be the first call you make. He should be in our minds at ALL times and every decision we make should be as a result of Him giving us the go-ahead to do it. As the song by Israel Houghton & New Breed sings “Jesus at the center of it all...nothing else matters” that should be our daily mantra and the banner we raise high.

We are so comfortable with Jesus being our closet companion. There must come a time when we no longer feel the need to please people, but God ALONE. Your friends didn’t die for you on the cross. In fact, this life confuses them just as much as it confuses you. They don't have it all together as much as they look like they do. They didn’t take a fraction of the brutality Jesus took for you, so why the need to please them? All God requires of us is ultimate submission.  We place so many irrelevancies before Christ. Our jobs, careers, relationships, wants and desires all compete with Christ. Who gave us the right to place these things before Him anyway? We must go back to the drawing board and get our lives together. If you didn't have the comfort you have now, will you still love Him? If tomorrow a hurricane wipes away all you own, will you still praise Him? When we stand before Christ on the day of judgment, all we accumulated on this earth will not amount to anything. All that will be counted will be how we lived for Christ, what we gave up to live for Him, the sacrifices we made and all we did for His Kingdom. Nothing we live for on this earth will mean anything and they will all pass away like ashes, so you see, re-prioritize. 

Luke 9:23-26:

“Then he told them what they could expect for themselves: “Anyone who intends to come with me has to let me lead. You’re not in the driver’s seat—I am. Don’t run from suffering; embrace it. Follow me and I’ll show you how. Self-help is no help at all. Self-sacrifice is the way, my way, to finding yourself, your true self. What good would it do to get everything you want and lose you, the real you? If any of you is embarrassed with me and the way I’m leading you, know that the Son of Man will be far more embarrassed with you when he arrives in all his splendor in company with the Father and the holy angels.”

You must let God lead your lives. He gave you this life to manage it for Him. To build His Kingdom and expand it. You cannot help yourself. Your friends can’t help you. MONEY cannot help you. Your intellect CANNOT help you. Your skills cannot help you. Self-sacrifice is the ONLY way to living your best life yet. Christianity at it’s core is not a prosperity walk. It’s not always comfortable. It will cost you something of great value. I don’t know about you but I’ll rather not “have it all” here on earth and suffer for Christ’s sake, and end up in Heaven having it ALL!!! Can you imagine that Jesus gave up HEAVEN to come and die for you and I while we were sinners. That is the ultimate sacrifice and until we get to the point where we are willing to give up our lives for Christ, we haven’t started living yet.

Every single day of your life, your thoughts should be “Is this decision going to take me to Heaven?” “Will these clothes cause that guy to lust for me?” “Will me going for drinks cause that struggling Christian’s to understand Christ more?” In a nutshell, we must be EXTREMELY deliberate about what we do. There are always eyes watching. We are on earth temporarily, and Heaven is our final resting place. Will what you’re chasing tirelessly amount to anything when it’s all said and done? This is a charge to hold everything loosely because there is no value in them. Be intentional about your walk with Christ. Sit with your unbelieving friends and be able to plant seeds of Christ in them. Don’t leave them alone. It’s not their lives and they cannot do what they want. Help them get on the straight and narrow.

Surrender and let God catch you.

Now that we know better, let’s do better.

It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. You can do it. I believe in you. I only mean well.
You are beauty-full. Believe nothing else.

Have a “Good and God” week.

Favor O.

Sunday, 18 May 2014

Made For More

Sex has become so normal in the world we live in. It's alarming!!! we can no longer sit back and contribute to the problem or fold our arms as though it does not exist. In the TV series "I love Lucy" ages ago, even though the characters (Lucy played by Lucille Ball & Ricky played by   Desire Arnaz) were husband and wife in the show as well as in real life, for the sake of decency on the show, they slept on different beds. Just imagine where we are in the world now. We have zero modesty and in fact, the more conservative you are, the more boring you are. Not to mention, the but of everyone's jokes. It's totally no big deal to have a child outside wedlock.

"It's not wrong if we are dating and in a committed relationship. Times have changed" never put yourself into the role of a wife before walking down that alter. Indeed, times may have changed but God's word is the same.

FAQ: where does the Bible talk about premarital sex? There's a word for that actually:

FORNICATION:  consensual sexual intercourse between two persons not married to each other —

"Flee fornication. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body."
-1 Corinthians 6:18-20

"Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in fornication, yor who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality,"
-1 Corinthians 6:9

"But because of fornication, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband."
-1 Corinthians 7:2

No matter what the times are saying, no matter what's popular and "in", there will never be a time to go against the word of God.
This also goes to speak on the way we dress. Ladies, there are just some items of clothing you have no business buying, let alone wearing (don't even get me started on posting on social media) if you consider yourself a lady after Gods heart. If your clothes will cause a man to look at you in a sensual/sexual/perverted manner (sin), it will be better to be thrown into a sea with a large stone on your neck...(mark 9:42)

Yes, we live in a highly sexualised world, and every other place we turn there is a sensual advert, book, TV shows that glorify foolishness and everything you can think of. While we cannot control what happens around us, we can control what happens IN us. We have the power to make quality decisions (even though they can be so hard at times). We have the power inside us. There are so many other things to do in a relationship or otherwise without engaging in physical activities. It's a condition of the mind and heart. Be determined at ALL costs to sacrifice your bodies for God…till you say "I do".

Enough of posing cheap and giving ourselves free of charge to guys who are undeserving. Enough of acting like you own your life when God really owns it and we are just managing it till He comes. Enough of forgetting who we really are. Let's go back to the right order of things: love, marriage, sex, & babies. #SexCanWait

NB: Any guy that won't love you without access to your body should be dropped…like a bad habit. Someone else that cares enough to protect your worth will love you for real. Any relationships that have already crossed lines should be re-evaluated and re-dedicated back to God…or dropped in cases with unwilling to commit relationships. You were made for more. 

Let God have your mind, body and spirit. Act like He literally follows you everywhere...because He does. (A guy also loves a woman with standards. Get some. They're free).

I love you. I mean well. You have the power in you. Close your legs and open your heart to God.  You are beauty-FULL!!! #SexCanWait

Favor O.

Monday, 21 April 2014

Hot or Cold?

“I love Jesus so much!” “we have our personal relationship” “I don’t need to put it on social media” “Jesus is my homeboy!” and so on. Come on! You know you’ve heard all these and even come up with your own phrases, so don’t sit there and twist your nose like you don’t know what’s going on. You know what’s crazy about all this? When Friday comes, the same people loving Jesus and all are tweeting at their friends to update them on the “turn-up” for the night. We see pictures on social media of their drunken nights and foolery. Of course, when Sunday comes they are too hung-over to go to church (or too uninterested to go). I keep saying, Christianity isn’t a box you tick on forms and go on living your life like you own it. 

Let me ask the BIG question: 

WHO DO YOU REPRESENT? WHAT IS YOUR BRAND?......Yeah! Think about it.

Are you a little closet christian that is too shy to let the world know you’re into this “Jesus thing?” You hide your bible when your cool friends are coming around, or scratch that. Who even carries bibles again right? We have iPads and digital bibles so it’s more convenient to hide Jesus (or so you think).  With our lips we proclaim Jesus, but before we know it, when pressure crushes us we deny Jesus like Peter.

Luke 22:33-34 Peter said, “Lord, I am ready to go to prison with you, and even to die with you.”
But Jesus said, “Peter, let me tell you something. Before the rooster crows tomorrow morning, you will deny three times that you even know me.”

Let me remind you. You cannot live for this world and live for Jesus too. The Bible clearly tells us we cannot serve two masters. You have to choose where your loyalty lies. If you love Jesus, let your WHOLE life reflect that. He wants your entire life because He is a jealous God, and jealous for where your heart is. He’s not interested in the Sunday, Easter, Christmas, and New Year part. 

Our freedom as Christians does not give us the liberty to sin. 

Romans 6:1-3 So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving? I should hope not! If we’ve left the country where sin is sovereign, how can we still live in our old house there? Or didn’t you realize we packed up and left there for good? That is what happened in baptism. When we went under the water, we left the old country of sin behind; when we came up out of the water, we entered into the new country of grace—a new life in a new land!

Is sinning really worth it? Will your friends that pressured you into acting a fool stand beside you on judgment day? No honey! You will be standing there alone before Christ giving account of what you did with your life. He is the one that died for you, not your friends. Live your life for God’s approval, or as I like to hashtag #LivingForAnAudienceOfOne. There are no awards for this on earth, you don’t get as much praise as you would for living like the world. So, you have to step out in boldness and courage to do this for Christ by yourself. 
You are a brand ambassador for Christ. There are so many things I want to do with my life sometimes, but when I remember who I represent I have to chill. There are also people that look up to you whether you know or not. What is your life mentoring to them? Your every decision affects someone’s life. You must UNDERSTAND your brand, and accept that you are living for a higher cause. 

Ladies, there is absolutely NOTHING as beautiful as living your life with standards and values. When you walk into a room and people turn to wonder who is that person? That is a true mark of success. The glory of God just knows how to make anyone look different. Are you polishing your crown? Or have you let the world throw dust on it? Don’t let the words of anyone deceive you. Living for Jesus is SO worth it. Do you know what I fear the most? 

Matt 7:21-23 “Not everyone who calls out to me, ‘Lord! Lord!’ will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Only those who actually do the will of my Father in heaven will enter. 22 On judgment day many will say to me, ‘Lord! Lord! We prophesied in your name and cast out demons in your name and performed many miracles in your name.’ 23 But I will reply, ‘I never knew you. Get away from me, you who break God’s laws.’

Look! We can’t play with this life. We have to go HARD for Christ! Are you with me? 

I love you and mean well. you got this! You are #Branded4Christ. Remain beauty-FULL.

Favor O.


Friday, 4 April 2014

Within your Means.

Ever been that person or known that person who wears their clothes while they leave their house, but because they are going out with “Miss-I-got-it-better” they borrow clothes from their friend to match up to a standard they aren’t yet on? We live in such a time when the pressure to be big is at an all-time peak. Instagram, Twitter, BBM, even face to face appearances make the next person just appear to have it better or on a more elevated level than you. If we are being honest, it’s not always a good feeling. We wonder why can’t we have that life? And we forget that the person may not have the happiness and peace you have in your life. You don’t stop to think that maybe they will trade their material things for the glow and sparkle in your eyes. Or they will give it all away to experience the simplicity you are oblivious to in your life only because the noise of luxury drowns the silence of your heart. In case you don’t know, the pressure these people that have it all go through to remain on the platform they are on is not the easiest. Before they come out looking like a million bucks there are so many things involved that if you knew, you will appreciate your life better.

This is not a long post. It’s just a reminder to be at ease in the here and now. To be actively present and content with the lot life has dealt you. You don’t need the latest Louboutins or that Givenchy purse to rank up your reputation. You don’t need to paint your face in layers of make-up to mask emotions, and scars you aren’t bold enough to display to the world (like most of these people do). Your inner riches surpass every man-made thing. When God sees that you are happy where you are, and can handle your character no matter what life throws you, He will add little sprinkles where you need them most. You won’t even realize when you no longer care about the next person’s life. You will be too busy on His mission with no down time to compare your lot with the next person’s.

Love your life. Accept yourself. Refuse to live on a pedestal you know fully well you have no business standing on. When it’s your time according to God’s schedule, you will have every good thing and more than you could have ever pictured yourself. Don’t sleep with that man because he promises you things. Don’t minimize your morals to appease the greed you sometimes experience. Don’t throw God under the bus in an attempt to fit-in. You know better. So, do better.

Hebrews 13:5 NLT: Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have. For God has said, “I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.”

God has your back. He’s in the business of protecting and loving His own.
 I love you. I mean well. I trust you. I believe in you.

Favor O.

Wednesday, 12 February 2014

For February 14th

This is either the best day for some or the worst for others. I’m not entirely sure how we can single out a day and hate it so much. Some people look forward to this day to tweet “Damn Single-awareness day” or “it’s just another Friday *rolling eyes*” If this may be you, I challenge you to change your attitude to this day. Valentine’s day is a lovely day to say the least. The fact that love is the most powerful force on earth so much that a day is set aside for it means something. If you’re single, I bet you have a friend (atleast one) that can do with some good, happy, no-bickering-about-how-all-men-are-dogs girl-time. It’s a day you can reach out and love on someone you don’t regularly hang out with for whatever reason. Anyways, let me give you a run down on “Love” from 1 Corinthians 13 (MSG)

1“If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.

3-7Love never gives up.

So you know how you are just tired of “kissing frogs” waiting for your Prince Charming and you have sworn that love is not for you? (who even told you you have control over that?) Let me encourage you to keep crying out to God and taking care of His business, and He will take care of yours. He may give you want you want, but more importantly what you really need. He wont disregard your desires as long as they are in accordance to His will.

Love cares more for others than for self.

If you’re single, or in a relationship you’re not satisfied with, the problem may be from you. Maybe you are a bit selfish and want your needs met while disregarding your boyfriend’s needs. Silence your emotions and listen with your heart to the needs of those around you. Practice being a woman, and not a girl.

Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

Be content with who you are. If you get a gift this Friday, be grateful. If you don’t, bless God still. You shouldn’t have time to mope and hate on those who get gifts. Love is content with all it has. Your life shouldn’t be phased by material things. If God thinks you need something, I assure you He will get it to you. Quiet your little selfish desires. You were made for more.

Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head,

Are you humble? Do you feel entitled to everything under the sun? I believe you’re not one of those girls that post all the labels of their clothes and what-not. I know you have your head on your shoulders. I also know you have no problem with saying “thank-yous” and “sorrys.” There’s nothing more beautiful that a girl that is aware of all she is, but doesn’t rub it in people’s faces.

Doesn’t force itself on others,

I learnt to love people on the level they can handle last year. It is important that your “love” doesn’t overwhelm others or push people away. Don’t force yourself on people all because you want to love them. Your love language may differ from the next person’s. Find a way that communicates love to the person more effectively if your method isn’t working. Sometimes, love yourself enough to cut off that relationship that demands more that usual time and energy. It’s saying, “I love you, but I have to love me more.”

Isn’t always “me first,”

It’s putting others ahead of you. It shows that you are loving your neighbors as yourself. It’s sacrificing our pleasures for the enjoyment of others. They deserve it too.

Doesn’t fly off the handle,

Nothing more sad than a woman whose emotions have control over her. Out in public and shouting at the sales assistant because she’s wasting your time, and rolling your eyes, cursing her out when she’s old enough to be your mum? GOD FORBID it be you. Put a lid on that and pray for God to God show you how to calm your emotions. Never let your emotions run over you... “Let your words be seasoned with grace”

Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,

Why do we find it so easy to point out others faults while sweeping ours under the rug? We magnify people’s sins and downplay ours. We are not in any competition for crying out loud. Give grace to people everyday. Learn to overlook some faults, and think to yourself how will I want to be treated if it were me?

Doesn’t revel when others grovel,

Your joy should not come from the fall of anyone. Your heart should break when you see your fellow sister on a lower platform than you (morally, spiritually etc). If you’re happy when other’s fail, that’s a character flaw that should be disciplined. Learn to carry the burdens of other’s and have a heart that cares for others intentionally.

Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,

There is so much freedom in speaking the truth. Never stoop so low to the level of creating a chain of lies. Do you know how silly you look when the truth is found out? Spare yourself the humiliation. Stand for truth. Help the helpless even if you are doing it alone. God will back you. 

Puts up with anything,

Think of endurance. Love isn’t a quitter. It’s taking punches and standing up to take some more. (Now I’m not saying allow any man hit you...that’s not the endurance I mean. By NO means should a man ever use violence on you and you take it) It’s refusing to throw in the towel at the slightest glow of adversity. It’s standing firm and rooted with God. It’s that “come hell, come high water” attitude.

Trusts God always,

Yes!!! It stands with God no matter what happens. It runs to God first instead of that girl to cry about what happens. it’s the assurance that God knows all that’s happening and has total control over it. The devil never creates a rise of emotions in us because our hope is secured in God. It’s that ability to sleep at night knowing God is chiseling and forming your future husband. So, refuse to date just anybody to while away time. You don’t even have that time right? I know! 

Always looks for the best,

Some people just like to TRY us. They give us a million reasons why they should not be trusted, but somehow in this superwoman heart of ours, we see the good in them. We believe in them still. We understand that they are hurting, and hurting people sometimes hurt people, but it’s okay. We find that 1 reason we love them tangled in the 10 reasons they are untrustworthy.

Never looks back,

Our eyes are too fixed on the promise God has for us that we never turn back and wallow in our yesterdays. We have made peace with the wounds of what happened, and we wear the scars as reminders today. It’s tunnel vision wrapped in focus.

8 Love never dies. But keeps going to the end.

Lust stays for a while, but love remains. It’s unwavering. Our flesh lusts, but with God’s grace and spirit love remains in our hearts. The more we become like God, the easier it gets to realize true unadulterated love.

Love makes who we are as people useful. If people can feel the love you give, it will make them want to believe in this God you’re after. God’s love is people-centered and that’s why this Friday, go out of your way to be an angel to someone else. It goes against our natural inclinations as selfish beings of expecting something in return. With God, we are capable.


*Don’t accept every offer you get this Valentine’s day because you need new things. You are valuable and cannot be bought. Instead, buy something for someone (including your boyfriend)

*Sleep ON your bed before and after that day. When you are married, you will spend your entire life on the same bed. Don’t sleep with any boy who promises you heaven and earth. Let Him marry you properly if he wants you so much. Keep your clothes on and your breasts safely secured in your clothes as well. He doesn’t have the right to access you yet.

*Let your attitude be sweet this week. Who knows if your attitude may just be keeping your man from finding you? Give love to those you encounter everyday and watch it come right back in ways you didn’t expect.

I love you SO much and can’t wait to see God’s plans come to LIFE in you.
I mean well. I believe in you. You are beauty-full.
I believe in you.

Favor O.

Thursday, 6 February 2014

Love Thy Neighbor

So a while ago, I attended a friend’s birthday dinner party. After all the merriment and such, before leaving, I saw a friend that I had lost contact with. After the usual small talk, I was about to leave when I hugged her and said “You smell nice.” She stepped back and looked at me with a puzzled look on her face and hesitantly said “Thanks.” She went on to say my compliment was weird “because girls don’t comment each other.” What???? Where???? Most importantly WHY? It has been in my mind so much. We go on Instagram to stalk someone’s profile, and all the “compliments” we have are all filled with shade and ill-spirit. It’s like we train our brains to capture and reassure us of all the flaws and just why so & so is hate-worthy. One minute we are best friends with someone, and the next minute, we are talking down on the person as if somehow as we criticize the person our quality of life increases in any capacity. 

Why is there an invisible constant competition between us sisters? We try to soothe our hurts and cover our imperfections by wounding someone else. To what end? We must develop our characters to a point where a compliment, support, encouragement, and love comes as naturally to us as breathing. 

1 Timothy 5:8:
“But if anyone does not provide for his relatives (replace with sisters) and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”

We must realize that this girl hate has nothing to do with the other person, but with us. Society has sold us a lie (and we ignorantly bought it too), and given us an indirect training on looking down on a girl who may even be like us or better than us (whatever that means). Magnifying another person’s flaws only make ours more visible and bigger than they probably are. It is up to us to break the norm and create a culture that builds each other up. 

To be in a culture that forces and deceives us to be who we are not and daring to be our original selves is pure success and accomplishment. 

Provers 3:17
“Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace.”

Let your life be such that people miss your sweetness and crave it when you’re absent. Not have bad reports about how much of a basket-mouthed, bitter, jealous and insecure girl you are. I don’t know about you but I am committed to building the next person up. From today henceforth, I refuse to allow my words tear down, criticize, reflect and project hate or negative energy to anyone, let alone my women. It will be hard to let go of this character especially when you have been trained most of your life in it. I know what it’s like to think your way of living has been right only to have someone burst your bubble. You can’t march confidently in the direction of the “better-you” without admitting certain parts of you are amiss. So today, I hold onto the “better-me” and I promise to love her and others. It’s my time to welcome new morning in my life. I may fall along the way, and may convince myself here and there about how much bad there is in me, but I’m walking with the force of the Mighty God, and that’s all I really need. The closer I am to loving me, the more I give my inadequacies eviction letters. I’m done being bitter, it’s time to do better. Come with me!

I believe in you. Yes! You have enough character in you. Your beauty is radiant in all it’s glory. I love you and always mean well. Shut the devil up and open your heart to give and receive only love. 

Favor O.


Friday, 17 January 2014

A Heart that Discerns.



  1. the ability to see and understand people, things, or stituations clearly and intelligently
  2. the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is obscure :  skill in discerning
  3. an act of perceiving or discerning something

In basic speech, discernment is the ability to choose wisely between right and wrong; truth and evil. That’s it! It sounds like “Christianese” but it’s not a complex word at all. Anyway, I’m trying to bring it to our mind as we’ve just entered a new year, and we will NEED it every single day. Lord knows!!! As a Christian lady set apart for God’s work, it is of tremendous purpose to be able to apply wisdom in every choice we make. We can’t be careless anymore because YOLO is so 2000&dead. We must know God’s Word this year for ourselves to sharpen our spiritual discernment machine. 

1 Thessalonians 5:21-22: “On the other hand, don’t be gullible. Check out everything, and keep only what’s good. Throw out anything tainted with evil.”

As Christians, it is part of our responsibility. It is not a choice offered to us, it is a requirement (especially as women on a mission). We must fine-tune the very voice of God that speaks clearly and positively to us. We cannot go on shutting up God’s voice and living our lives the way we believe is best. You don’t own you. Every day exposes us to situations where discernment is needed. Relationships, friendships, school courses, associations, communication, businesses, preachers, choosing what clothes to wear etc. Everything requires wisdom, and failure to discern properly exposes us to the devil as prey. Ask God if He wants you to remain in that futile relationship that is like a train headed for disaster, or that job that drains you and leaves you feeling broke and broken. What about those group of “friends” that cause you to sin and violate your conscience every time you meet? It is likely that God has already given you all the answers but you are not interested in His “restrictions.” Let me let you know, sometimes, these boundaries are not punishment, but protection. 

Do you trust your pastor enough that if you didn’t own a bible, you would be comfortable enough to follow their lives blindly with the hope of reaching Heaven? Spiritual discernment comes when you are sound enough to distinguish between truth and error in preachers. False teaching permits us to soften boundaries, create unbiblical mindsets, and in the long run our lives will be purposeless and not subject to God. While on the issue of “purpose”, anything you feel God placed in you as your “purpose”, but gives Him NO glory/reflects Him in no way makes you purposeless. Needless to say, He didn’t give it to you. Don’t lie to yourself. 

We must be able to biblically stand in the face of opposition that meets us on life’s way daily. We are God’s generals. Don’t forget. 

2 Peter 1:3-4: “ Everything that goes into a life of pleasing God has been miraculously given to us by getting to know, personally and intimately, the One who invited us to God. The best invitation we ever received! We were also given absolutely terrific promises to pass on to you—your tickets to participation in the life of God after you turned your back on a world corrupted by lust.

Lord, I thank you that you have given me a discerning heart, and a heart that is ready to do your will. I will no longer silence your still, small, voice in my heart. From today, I will apply discernment in every area of my life with the hope of drawing near to You. Cast me not away from your presence Lord. Devil, your loud, unrelenting, deceptive voice I will no longer hear. You have stolen enough from me, and I have turned my back on you so I can see clearly the life God created for me. The guilt of yesterday will not taint my tomorrow. I belong to you Lord, and ONLY You I will serve! 


I love you! I believe in you! I trust you! You are beauty-FULL! (Believe NOTHING else)

Favor O.