Wednesday, 13 July 2016

Re-defining Purity.

Purity [pyoo r-i-tee]: the condition or quality of being pure; freedom from anything that debases, contaminates, pollutes etc.

I've been thinking about this for a while and it only made sense to extend the thought to whoever finds this. We live in a culture that formerly highly promotes virginity and "saving the self," but hardly ever does the conversation extend to purity of the mind and spirit. It always seems to end at "no sex" and "close your legs" without caring to let us know why. Why are we so focused on the physical purity? as if it's not more detrimental to have a contaminated mind and spirit. Okay, so you've managed to keep yourself as a virgin but should you still be applauded if your mind and spirit have been compromised? Let's remember Matthew 5:28 that says LOOKING at someone lustfully is sin enough. 

Who creates these demarcations that prioritise one aspect of purity over the other? What really is the purpose of your purity? To say you "waited" and obeyed your mother or to be in subjection to obedience from God? Your walk with God is dependent on your purity levels. When did it all of a sudden become "cool" to explore the fields of sexual activity outside marriage? More importantly, when did it become a thing of shame to own virginity and purity? (This is the real cool) Society has sold us a lie and we've bought it and fed it to others. A while ago, I shared with a couple friends on how I wasn't going to engage in any sexual activities in my relationship, and somehow it became a joke to them. They made me plainly understand that I was setting myself up to fail for that sole decision. After all, I would be cheated on and "a man's got to do what a man's got to do" right? Wrong. Who said man was made for sex? The only thing we need for to be alive is air in our lungs. Fast forward to a couple of years of waiting and with God's help, maintaining purity and my relationship has progressed, but these friends have not been able to secure stable relationships. I must be doing something right. Believe it when the Bible says that God always rewards obedience.

On the other hand, why is this lesson of virginity only taught to girl-children? Men are leaders of the home, and they have an equal role to play. So, if they are not educated on the importance of obeying God in this issue, who's to tell where else they will disobey God? I don't think the Bible instructed the lesson to be taught only to a select gender. Our collective purity as a whole, is our power. We have the responsibility to promote purity of the mind, body and spirit to all who have breath in their lungs. 

Matthew 5:8 blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God. God is interested in our purity of heart. Purity and purpose go hand-in-hand. It's not okay to just disengage from sexual immorality on the physical. What's the condition of your heart? Are you masturbating or watching "soft pornography" (you know the kind where a sex scene just happens to be in an innocent movie that tends to last a bit longer than necessary, so it's not exactly porn) or blown out porn? After all it's easily accessible? So you lay in bed at bedtime and out of the whole 2-hours long movie you watched, you start replaying this select scene over and over again. Next thing you know, you're texting this person you have NO moral basis to text...talking about "I miss you!" and "You just forgot me" Yeah, we all know how that ends. We must screen the things that enter our eyes, and ears. Yes! This means that we MUST screen everything that enters our eyes and ears. Be intentional about your life.

Hebrews 13:4a let marriage be held in honor among all. Let's get back to the heart of the Father. This is His perfect will. That marriage is kept sacred and uncompromised. That we go back to the order of things. Let's have a throwback and encore of morals we left in the 90s. You know how you were shy to hold that boys hand when you were dating? And the first time he "mistakenly" brushed his hands around your waist you called your best friend to tell her about it? Yeah! Let's go back to the innocence of the time. Define clear boundaries in your relationships. Let the other know we will not rub and touch and kiss and even hug too long. It's a war!!! Let him earn you. *Put some RESPEK on your self* Someone said "how is sex before marriage making LOVE when God is love, and God isn't in it?" The boundaries of sex should only be discussed in the boundaries of a marriage. Let's be eager to get married, so that the day we put on that WHITE (signifying purity) dress, we can beat our chests and say "Verily, verily, I earned this white dress!" Lets stop this behavior of desecrating our lives, living black lives but wearing white dresses.

Romans 6:11a So, you must consider yourselves DEAD to sin and ALIVE to God. Dead to sin! Alive to God...Dead to sin. Alive to God. DEAD (lifeless, desensitised, unresponsive) to sin. ALIVE (living, responsive, functioning, active, existent) to God. Yassssss! THESE are the true goals. Forget what social media says. We are a light that can never be dim. They can only try to shut our mouths, but the truth can never be silenced. We have no business experimenting with sin. Maintain purity in your body, but most importantly in your mind. You don't have to be popular in the world's eyes. God's approval is really all that matters. Respond only to the voice of the Spirit. If you fell along the way, ask God to forgive you and become committed to living life the right way. Purity begins in the mind, and out of the overflow of the heart it reflects in our bodies. The road won't be easy but P-R-A-Y! Ask for the Holy Spirit to help you guard your life.

Your body is a temple. Save it for the worthy one God created you for, and when the time is right you can have "Undefiled Worship."


I believe in you. We can all do it. Let's hold each other's hands. 

Favor O.


  1. In truth, the clutter that fills up our minds and fogs our vision every day, every second could lead us down the drain if we are not careful. Therefore, we should know that a positive thought and a negative thought cannot occupy the same space in our minds at the same time, they cannot co-exist at all because we cannot serve two masters at the same time.
    We would have to start choosing our thoughts like
    we choose our clothes for the day so our minds remain guarded.
    Nice piece. Thank you for sharing with us what would benefit us.

  2. I love that you she light on something rarely discussed: soul purity! Thank you for this!

  3. I've tried to post my comment three times. I hope they show LOL.